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2012-01-12T18:34:00.000-05:00

Seductive Art

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January 18

Come join us at Brooklyn's sexiest event.

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Bringing Romantic Fantasies to life

2011-12-14T12:59:00.000-05:00

One of the most enjoyable parts of having a relationship is being able to fulfill your romantic fantasies. You know, the one about being swept off your feet by a knight in shining armor or rescuing the damsel in distress?

Knights and damsels are a thing of the past, but romantic fantasies still exist. A romantic fantasy is something important to you that is missing in your love life. It's what you think about in your quiet time. If only you had it, your life would be more complete.

In this article, you will learn how your romantic fantasies can come true by learning how to make them happen. All dreams need work to become realities. Whether you are in a relationship or not, you can still formulate your plan of action to make your romantic dreams come true.

Romantic fantasies are different for everyone. Each fantasy takes on a life of its own with a unique feeling, tone, and theme. Some people have simple fantasies; other people's fantasies are very detailed. One thing that is common with all romantic fantasies is the element of desiring something that you don't already have in your life and that can only come through a romantic partner.

Sharing Your Fantasy

Many times, both partners in a relationship have fantasies that they would like to share with their partners, but they don't reveal them. Sharing a fantasy can make you vulnerable. Fantasies also can evoke strong emotions. For these reasons, fantasies are usually kept private. To present your secret thoughts to someone can take courage.

One of the biggest barriers to sharing a fantasy with your partner is erroneous assumptions. No one can read another person's mind. Yet it's easy to come up with many reasons why you think your partner would not want to live out a fantasy with you.

Telling Your Partner What You Want
How do you tell your partner about your romantic fantasies? It's easy. All you have to do is be clear about what you want and then tell your partner. If you have someone who loves you, that person may be more eager to make you happy than you think.

The first step to telling your partner about your romantic fantasy is to think about what you want. Then write the fantasy down in one sentence. Have your partner write his or her fantasy down,too.
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2011-12-10T14:17:00.000-05:00

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Devine ToyBox - Hot Pink Corset

Anessential part of any romance repertoire, the DevineToy Box is a flirtyfortress for all of your bedside accessories. Styled of satin, faux leather andlace, fashioned with secure lock and key, your favorite playthings, lotions andsuch will forever be safe from inquisitive eyes and sticky fingers.

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SensualHoliday Gift Trio Ring My Sleigh Bell and Celebrate the Season with a SensualHoliday Glow and Joyous Fragrances. As candle burns it liquefies into a warm,moisturizing oil for a sexy body massage. Enhanced with pheromones, a naturalsensual attractant. Made of natural soy and infused with essential oils, soycandles leave no candle wax or residue and burn cooler and cleaner than wax.Melted oil will be warm but will not burn as it heats to only two degrees abovenormal body temperature. Intended for all skin types. As with all skinproducts, If Irritation occurs, discontinue use. Contains 3 - 2 ounces scentedmassage candles in organza gift bag. Ring My Sleigh Bell Theme. Directions forskin care or body massage use: burn candle until partially liquid. Extinguishflame & pour on body for moisturizing skin renewal or warm body massage.

Fetish Fantasy Xmas Plush Cuff Set

Tis the season to be naughty with this playful Xmas Plush Cuff Set! Everything you need to heat up the holiday is included in this seductive stocking stuffer: 2 plush wrist cuffs, 2 plush ankle cuffs, a plush santa hat and plush love mask. The soft, fur-lined cuffs are tethered by a chain and clip and easily adjust to fit most sizes, while the plush love mask gently prevents your partner from peeking. Santa won't be the only one coming this Xmas!

Skin Honey Kissable Body Topping in Chocolate Honey Flavor

Skin Honey is Booty Parlor’s delicious, kissable three-in-one body topping, massage gel and personal lubricant. This edible elixir adds luxurious fragrances and scents to your intimate exploration. Drizzle some on to enjoy a tasty treat while also nourishing your skin. Key ingredients include: Honey Extract to soften and hydrate the skin, Goji Berry (a powerful anti-oxidant) and Ginseng to energize the mind and stimulate desire. The water based folmula is safe for intimate encounters. To use: Playfully drizzle anywhere you want to kiss or be kissed. Note - works as an intimate moisturizer and massage gel. No sticky residue.

Siri and Intima Gift Set

SIRI has beauty and brains in abundance, appearing as LELO’s most powerful sensual massager to date. Skillfully honed for clitoral and all-over body stimulation, SIRI benefits from a stronger and more efficient motor, allowing her to deliver even more exciting and targeted vibes. These are in turn controlled by an intelligent microprocessor that conveys power through six varied stimulation modes. SIRI’s ergonomically contoured shape meanwhile directs the improved vibration strength through the quietest buzz, ensuring nothing comes between you and those soon to be discovered delights. *Happier Holidays! Until December 25th, SIRI Red is also offered in a special limited-edition couples’ set that includes the luxurious Intima Silk Blindfold.

12"Hand-Embroidered Jeweled Paddle

Authentic Indian hand embroidered silver stitching on luscious velvet makes this paddle a piece of art. Display it on your wall or in bed. Subtleties of the stitching and workmanship make each paddle as rare and individual as the gem stone colors used.

Red Ribbon Corset

This corset contains 3 ribbons, making you look like a perfect present for any occasion. Who wouldn't want you as a present?

Double Marabou pastie set

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Very happy holidays indeed! This set of gorgous Christmas pasties are decked out in marabou and sequins for a look that jingles all the way!

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2011-12-05T20:31:00.001-05:00

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2011-10-17T18:41:00.000-04:00

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2011-09-24T20:30:00.000-04:00

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The Best Happy-Ending Parlors

2011-09-19T14:06:00.000-04:00

Please note: Paying for sex is illegal in New York City, so use the information below at your own risk; We are not responsible for your safety. At each location, your mileage may vary, depending on your masseuse, your look and your behavior. The services described below are not explicitly offered at the spas, which describe themselves as legitimate massage parlors. A decent tip is usually $40. The following five have been in operation for at least two years running.

West Garden Spa
243 W 30th St between Seventh and Eighth Aves (212-244-7711, westgardenspa.com)
Cost: $100 plus tip
This superclean, two-floor complex, which looks like a legit spa inside and out, is a good place for beginners, as long as you don’t mind some chitchat: Every businessman and his client go here, and they’re not afraid to make small talk (“Have a good time, dude?” wink wink). There’s a nice gym-quality locker room, steam rooms, sauna and showers, yours to use, no rush. Then you get a table wash (often by a petite Latina woman) and are directed (by an Asian woman of the spa’s choice) into a labyrinth of private white rooms, with Lite FM music piped in. After a decent massage (“Hard or soft?”), she’ll jerk you off. Don’t touch her back, unless you want an unhappy ending.

New York Health Spa
5 W 37th St between Fifth and Sixth Aves (212-575-5600, nyhealthspa.com) Cost: $80 plus tip
Through the lobby of an office building and around the corner from the Girl Scouts headquarters (yeesh), this downstairs Asian massage parlor appears to be furnished by Crate and Barrel, with wood-paneled floors and a fully stocked locker room (brand-name Q-tips!). The service is just as quality: You’ll get a table shower and a fine massage, followed by an unrushed rub and tug. Then get dressed in the private locker room; the best part about this place is that it keeps you away from your fellow spagoers. No chance you’ll run into Uncle Ted in the john.

Miga Spa
488 Amsterdam Ave between 83rd and 84th Sts (212-501-7750)
Cost: $70 plus tip
Getting a happy ending is more of a K-town thing—there aren’t a ton of places on the Upper West Side. But this little hideaway, in an apartment converted into a massage parlor, is good for a post-IMAX fix. The two-room space is clean enough.

My Heavenly Hands
Locations vary (646-460-0566, myheavenlyhands.com)
Cost: $120 for 30 minutes; $160 for an hour, plus tip
Also known as Latin Sun (at least in the back-page ads), this service, run by self-proclaimed college girls (but who knows), employs Hispanic and black women, a nice alternative to the usual Asian fare. The locations differ, but we’ve been to the one in a shabby apartment building near David Letterman’s Late Show studio and another in an office building—seriously, it was right next to a dentist’s office! That may spook you, but if you’re looking for something other than the usual Asian massage parlor, here you go. Cash only.

22 West Spa
13 E 37th St between Fifth and Madison Aves, second floor (212-997-2228)
Cost: $60 for 30 minutes; $80 for an hour, plus tip
Formerly called Gold Spa (and still called that by its fans, in case you wanna do some Google-researching), this is the most notorious spa in town. We’ve heard of people going in for a quick happy ending and getting a blow job (without a condom), a make-out session (while being tugged) or full-on sex. Our reporter never went that far, but he did enjoy what his health teacher once called “mutual masturbation” while a breast was in his mouth. Whatever you do, make sure the girl’s willing first—and remember, she was probably doing something similar with the dude before you. Be safe!
Time Out New York

Food and Oral Sex???

2011-09-14T15:54:00.002-04:00

Great food is like great sex; the more you have, the more you want”- Gael Greene

There are men ( and women) that are not that passionate about cunnilingus, and not because they find the whole process demeaning or anything, but because of the smell and taste of women’s intimate parts.
If you’re one of those men (or women), don’t give up on the idea for good, you’ll make your girlfriend incredibly unhappy and you’ll lose some pretty special feelings also. Oral sex can be revived by adding food and beverages to the process.

Here are some of my favorites, along with their benefits.
1.    Mint cream. In the old days, the majority of the famous luxury brothels had as specialty of the house the mint cream fellatio. I tried that with my husband once and he was extremely pleased with the result. After that, he decided to do the same to me. And man, the thrills! Here’s what you have to do: take a spoonful of mint liquor in your mouth, and then let it drip onto her private parts. For a brief moment, her lips are going to look like The Incredible Hulk but then the fun begins: the alcohol will start to gently tickle her skin, making the whole area incredibly sensitive. Cool it down by blowing cold air (everywhere BUT inside the vagina), which will result in an extraordinary mix of sensations. Soon she’ll start to feel her labia deliciously numb, at which point you should start your regular licking and kissing routine. If you’re on a budget, a strikingly similar effect can be obtained with mint mouthwash or sucking a mint candy.
2.    Cinnamon oil. In addition to the pleasant taste this gives to her intimate parts, a few drops of this heavily perfumed oil will make her feel like she’s on fire, tingling all over the place. The feeling is slowly phased off as you kiss her, but she won’t need that much time anyway, because is trick guarantees a fast and strong orgasm. Again, if the budget is limited, you can also try with sorbet- although not as effective.
3.    Tea. Take a sip of Earl Grey tea, after having let it cool in the cup for five minutes, then embrace her labia, making sure you don’t spill a single drop. (The best position for this is for you to kneel in front of her, while she’s standing, because this way your mouth is parallel to her body.) The heat that she feels brings additional pleasure to cunnilingus, and, as long as you manage to keep the tea in your mouth, the taste of her vagina will be much improved.
4.    Ice. This is excellent when alternated with tea, because you go from one extreme to the other, and the feeling is exquisite! Take a small cube of ice in your mouth and start sucking it while sucking her vulva. This can be done anywhere and at any angle, because the ice doesn’t stain the sheets.
5.    Yogurt. If you’re not the biggest fan of cunnilingus, yogurt can change the whole act into a friendly and delicious game. You simply anoint the vulva with it and then start licking it slowly. You can also add strawberries, cherries or even noodles, if you’re in for a treat. Be careful not to dedicate your entire attention to the process of eating solely the food, making her feel like a mere plate. Pace yourself and move the food here and there, revealing what’s worth kissing.
6.    Champagne. Even if it does not fit what Dom Perignon had in mind when he invented champagne, the trick works nicely. Take a sip of champagne and let the gas bubbles stimulate her while you’re doing your number on her. However, don’t think that you can save money by substituting champagne with 7up or Coca Cola, because these contain acids that will cause her vaginal sores.
7.    Whipped cream. That’s a classic, don’t you agree? Its sweet flavor covers all peculiar tastes and smells and you’ll be more than happy to go down on your girlfriend while she’s covered with it. A word of advice: spread the area of licking. Put whipped cream on her breasts, her belly, her thighs, hell you can even suck her fingers. Seeing you that into it, she’ll grow more relaxed and she’ll orgasm more quickly.

My Lover, My Goddess: The Sacred Sexuality of Worshipping a Woman

2011-08-30T15:02:00.002-04:00

“The ocean fill’d with joy — the atmosphere all joy!
Joy! joy! in freedom, worship, love! joy in the ecstasy of life!
Enough to merely be! enough to breathe!
Joy! joy! all over joy!” - Walt Whitman

If sex is just a routine for you, a way for you and your lover to de-stress after a hard day, then it’s time you took things up a notch and found a way to make sexuality and intimacy a major priority in your life. Do you have any routines that you have in your life that remind you of the sacred nature of your love? If not, start with this incredible exercise to affirm the sacredness of both your bodies! When you have some experience with affirmations, you can write your own for daily loving talk and touch.

The Five-Fold Kiss
Honoring the Feminine:
Kiss her feet: “Blessed be thy feet, that you may come to the Sacred Places”;
Kiss her sex: “Blessed be thy sex that fills the well of Sacred Spaces”;
Kiss her heart: “Blessed be thy breast, that your heart beats with the Sacred Drums”;
Kiss her lips: “Blessed be thy lips, that you may speak in Sacred Tongues”;
Kiss her 3rd eye: “and Blessed be thy mind, that you may see with Sacred Eyes”.
Honoring the Masculine:
Kiss his feet: “Blessed be thy feet, that you may come to the Sacred Places”;
Kiss his sex: “Blessed be thy sex, that lights the flame of Sacred Spaces”
Kiss his heart: “Blessed be thy breast, that your heart beats with the Sacred Drums”;
Kiss his lips: “Blessed be thy lips, that you may speak in Sacred Tongues”;
Kiss his 3rd eye: “and Blessed be thy mind, that you may see with Sacred Eyes”.

You Are
This next affirmation will give you the chance to tell your wife exactly what she means to you and your relationship, and she can do the same for you. Stand or sit comfortably and then look deeply into each other’s eyes before you speak.
Touch the top of her head and say, “You are woman.”
Touch her forehead and say, “You are understanding.”
Touch the small of her throat and say, “You are my link with the spirit.”
Touch her chest and say, “You are nourishment.”
Touch her belly and say, “You are the chalice of life.”
Touch her sex and say, “You are the maker of forms.”
Touch the top of his head and say, “You are man.”
Touch his forehead and say, “You are wisdom.”
Touch his chest and say, “You are my strength and my protection.”
Touch his abdomen and say, “You are my warmth.”
Touch his sex and say, “You are the fountain of life.”
Come together and kiss as lovers and sacred partners, than sit facing one another in a comfortable position and meditation on your love and commitment to one another for 5 to 10 minutes.

Yoni Worship
To really allow your lover to feel like the Goddess she is, you need to take the time to truly worship her, to give her the opportunity to feel pleasure and bliss without expectation, without the pressure to feel a certain way or react as you desire, without the requirement that she reciprocate in some specific way.
The next time you have an opportunity for date-night, which should be sooner rather than later, you should make it absolutely clear to your lover that the night is all about her, a chance for you to show her your love and devotion. Explain to her how enjoyable it is for you to give her pleasure and see her ecstasy, and continue to affirm it as she experiences the bliss you can give her. If she reaches to touch you in a sexual manner, explain that in order to focus on worshipping her properly, she should save her touch and desire for a date-night focused solely on you as God. Assure her that you have the whole night together, she can take as long as she wants or needs and experience as many (or as few!) orgasms as she desires, and that at the next opportunity you can take a night for her to worship you as well.
Create an environment, in which she can relax; light some candles, put on some sexy music, and give her a sensual massage before you move down to worship her sacred yoni. Touch her gently and listen to her reactions to your touch – her moans, her rate of breath and any feedback she gives you should be taken into consideration to give her the most pleasure possible. Devote yourself entirely to her ecstatic pleasure in whatever form that takes and show her that she is a Goddess in your eyes.

Is an Open Marraige the Answer to My Problems?

2011-08-07T15:41:00.000-04:00

Tantric Sex for Couples: Introduction, Tips, and Suggestions

2011-07-10T19:40:00.002-04:00

Hindu and Buddhist Tantra originated in India over 6,000 years ago, at a time when dominant religious doctrines emphasized celibacy and limited sexual activity as essential for true spiritual enlightenment. These dominating religious practices perpetuated the notion that denying oneself of fleshly pleasures helps individuals transcend worldly barriers. Tantra rose from the ashes of discontentment that accompanied the demonization of sexuality, creating an oppositional doctrine - or practice - that promoted meditative sexuality as a method of destroying the restrictive chains of secularity, and of making the divine accessible. So essentially, Tantric sex promotes a path toward enlightenment by improving and prolonging sexual encounters.

Fun in the Bath

2011-07-07T10:28:00.002-04:00

We’ve probably all encountered a man that is threatened by sex toys. He thinks you want a toy because he doesn’t please you, or that he won’t be able to compete with the toy, when the truth is sex toys can be used to enhance the pleasure of both partners. I don’t think any of us would rather have the toy than the man, but they sure can be great together.

If you have been wanting to introduce toys to your relationship but are worried about how your partner will react, the trick is to start off slow. Don’t bring home a life sized penis shaped vibrator first, as he may view that as a replacement for him. You can get to that, but first you have to build the foundation.

A great way to start is in the bath, with a soft vibrating spa sponge. Try Sex in the Shower Vibrating Mesh Sponge. It’s cutesy and fun, nothing any man would be threatened of! Run a bath, light some candles, maybe put on some light music, and ask him to join you. Enjoy the bath for a bit and when he gets relaxed and in the mood start giving him his sponge bath! If he’s loving it, go wild! If he seems a little reluctant, just stick with his upper body for a bit, and then let him bathe you. He may just be more comfortable taking the lead himself.

For added fun, try reading sensual stories from WET, erotically eloquent and always guaranteed to make you Wet. After you’ve taken several fun baths together and he has no problems letting the vibrating sponge wander, you are ready to graduate on to your next toy! Just remember to let him know it is about enhancing the pleasure for both of you if he still has any qualms.

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What makes sex good?

2011-07-01T16:55:00.001-04:00

Now, I’m quite lucky in that I haven’t had much “bad” sex. Basically, for me, any sex is good sex so long as it’s consensual and safe and all that. So for me, a lot of it is a chosen mental state, rather than the actual quality of sex. I suppose though, that there are physical factors of consensual intercourse that would cause it to be good versus bad. So I suppose, in order for the sex to be good both parties would need to orgasm, yes? Not really. I think there needs to be more than that.
First off I think there needs to be fun. Even if you’re having emotional make-up sex, or passionate been-teasing-each-other-all-day sex, you still need to be enjoying it. Secondly, I think there needs to be more contact that just genital contact. (Please keep in mind this is my opinion … )For me, if there’s no kissing or no caressing or things like that, it just removes something very ..intrinsic to a sexual encounter. I may have the best orgasm ever, but there will still be something missing, something that’s really undefinable, something that’s probably more emotional than physical. Not sure, body parts will graze each other, but for me it needs to be intentional touching/caressing.
I asked my boyfriend what, to him, does sex need to have in order for it to be “good” and he replied that first and foremost both parties would need to be satisfied to their own individual sexual gratification needs. And I’d have to agree with him on that one. As he pointed out, everybody has their own needs in order for sex to be ultimately satisfying for them. For me, that’s deliberate touching, caressing and kissing. For a good friend of mine, sex has to involve some sort of bdsm kink. For my boyfriend it’s ensuring that I’ve had at least one full on, climax. He’s unable to allow himself to have genuine sexual pleasure until I’ve had genuine sexual satisfaction.
For me I think that one of the most important things that really makes sex good for me is that my partner (my boyfriend now of course) is actually into it. I know many who have gone to be solely because their partner was horny. Now of course there is the aspect that a lot of the time I think you should try, at least see if a little foreplay can get you in the mood. But if you’re not at that point mentally, then sex with a sense of obligation is one of those things that can lead to a whole host of unpleasantness. But, sometimes you can simply oblige your partner by using a vibrator on them or giving a hand job or blow job.
Lastly I think, as does my boyfriend, that it’s important to always keep in mind that an orgasm or ejaculation does not mean “great” or “good” sex. My boyfriend and I have had some of the most incredible sex that didn’t end with orgasm, climax or ejaculation. You can have a huge ejaculation simply during masturbation. Or even during sleep! If you get too focused on the end result, you loose what’s happening in the now, and I can guarantee that you loose a lot of pleasure doing that.
In the end, what “good” sex is is not, in any way, universal. It’s all personal! It’s what you find pleasurable and ensuring that you have that experience during your sexual encounters. And because we each find different things pleasurable, and each of us finds different things pleasurable that ensures a lot of joy and variety in our sexcapades!

What, to you, is good sex?? Do share!
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Reasons to Try a Sex Toy

2011-06-30T13:57:00.001-04:00

1. Sex Toys Make Some Things Easier
It’s easier for many women to orgasm with a vibrator, it’s easier for women to get clitoral stimulation during intercourse with a vibrator, it’s easier to reach the G-Spot and the prostate with a sex toy, it’s easier to prolong an erection with a sex toy ~ the list could go on and on. The beauty of making things easier during sex is that you can sit back and enjoy the ride. Instead of worrying about whether you’re going to come or if you’re going to come too soon, you can relax and focus solely on the pleasure at hand.

2. Sex Toys Help You Break Out of a Routine
Do you require a certain stroke to masturbate, a particular position to orgasm, or a just-so lick during oral sex? Sex toys can expand your range, offering certain types of stimulation that hands or tongues can’t. A penis sleeve might tickle your fancy, a strap on vibrator might free you up to try different intercourse positions, or a small vibrator might add a delightful extra buzz to your next blow job. Think of sex toys as adding more entrees to an ever-expanding sexual buffet.

3. Sex Toys Inspire Sexual Confidence
By picking up a sex toy and pressing it to your genitals, you are taking responsibility for your sexual needs and desires. In a culture where we learn very little about sexual pleasure, this act alone is impressive. Rather than waiting passively for someone to fulfill all your sexual needs, you take matters into your own hands. As a result, you learn more about your sexuality, you gain greater self-confidence and expertise, and you’re more likely to have satisfying sexual encounters in the future.

4. Sex Toys Spice Up Partner Sex
Sex toys actually enhance partner sex play by enabling you do certain things you might not otherwise be able to ~ whether it’s a vibrator adding just the right clitoral stimulation during intercourse, or a butt plug that makes coming from prostate stimulation possible.

5. Sex Toys Make the Mood
You’ll discover that certain types of sex play beg for some sex toy accessories. That back caress may feel even better when it’s given with a warm oil, that kiss may resonate even more deeply if your hands are tied to the bed posts, and that cyber fling might short circuit your computer if you’re wearing a vibrator. Adding sex toys can incite your imagination and lend just the right spark of adventure to your love life.
Excerpted from The Many Joys of Sex Toys by Anne Semans.

2011-06-26T12:33:00.000-04:00

Secret G Spot Massage Stroke That Will Drive Her Wild!

2011-06-17T20:50:00.000-04:00

Massaging the g-spot one way to lead your partner to deeper orgasms
that can include ejaculation or squirting.

For most women, the g spot is very sensitive to touch with the
correct pressure, and usually results in a more powerful and a more
of a whole body orgasm compared to a clitoris orgasm.

I have put together some simple points to locate and massage the g
spot.

1. Before any g spot stimulation make sure your lover is really
turned on with some great foreplay.

2. I like to start any vulva massage by just placing my whole palm
over the vulva with no penetration and let the heat of my hand turn
her more on. Hold this for a minute or so while your other hand can
play with her breasts etc.

3. Next I like to massage the outer vulva with some long strokes up
and over the clitoris.

4. When she is wet, slowly insert your second finger into your lover's
vulva, with your palm facing up. If she is not wet, use some
lubrication on the vulva and your fingers.

5. Then, make a "come here" motion with your finger and you will be
able to feel walnut ridged area. This feels totally different to
the smooth area of the rest of the vulva. Ask her if this feels
good.

6. Now you are touching the g spot, vary the pressure and notice
how your lover responds. Generally most men do not use enough
pressure, but every woman is different.

When you stimulate her g-spot she may have a feeling to pee. If it
happens and she lets it flow, it is female ejaculation and not pee.
Use a towel under her so she feels safe to really let go.

7. Now for my secret stroke. Curl your index finder so it is next
to the clitoris and use the second finger on the g spot. Relax your
hand and vibrate it in and out about 1 inch. As she gets close to
orgasm, one can use a vigorous motion. This usually results in a
powerful orgasm.

8. Now take your time with the secret stroke. Sometime I do this
for 20 minutes or longer and my love has 3 great orgasms.

9. A more advanced secret stroke is to have your third finger in
the anus. Use lots of lubrication in the anus for this stroke.

Follow these 7 simple steps and you should be hitting the g-spot
successfully.

Have fun!

How to Be a Naughty Girl

2011-06-13T14:49:00.000-04:00

Sex – no matter how vanilla – is something every guy adores. Even if it’s missionary position with the lights off – he’ll take that over no sex any day. But you can really wow your man by making it more kinky and showing him that you have a naughty side. Here’s how to let the vixen in you out.

Use A Mirror During Sex – And Fellatio

Guys love to watch. That’s a given, considering just how much porn there is circulating around the adult DVD stores and the Internet. Get him to focus on you though by introducing a mirror during sex. Put one on your bedroom wall right next to the bed and better yet, put one on the opposite side so he can get a view of both angles. If you can’t get full size mirrors, settle for a makeup mirror on a table or night stand that will give him a great view of you giving him a blowjob.

Masturbate For Him

Again, this is playing into the fact that men really do get off on visual stimuli. Instead of getting angry with him for watching porn instead of being interested in you, give him a reason watch you. Shake off your insecurities about how you look (he loves the way you look naked, even though you’re not perfect) and give him the show of his life by masturbating in front of him. Close your eyes or blindfold yourself and turn on some music so that you have no idea that he’s there. Then just go at it! You will be amazed at just how much watching you do yourself the way you like it will turn him on.

Do It Somewhere Else

Instead of having sex in the bedroom again, show him your wild side by suggesting sex somewhere else. Whether it’s on the couch, in the backyard or in the VIP section of an exclusive nightclub, just the change of venue will do wonders for how amazing the sex is. When you move outside the bedroom and let the vixen inside you out, expect amazing orgasms for both you and your partner!

Walk Around The House Naked

Most women aren’t confident about their naked bodies and most men hate that about their partners. Your man loves the way you look naked – if he didn’t, he’d probably wouldn’t be with you. So let your insecurities and inhibitions go and start walking around the house naked. Start small, like not putting on a towel after a shower while you head to the bedroom to get dressed. Perhaps you can hang out naked for a bit after having sex, and after you get used to the idea, you can walk around the house naked whenever you like. Your man won’t be able to keep his eyes off you!

Do The Reverse Cowgirl

The reverse cowgirl is one of the sex positions that most guys like the best. Why is this? Because it gives them a full view of your vagina and your anus, and he gets to see every thrust in eye-popping detail. Many women don’t like to do this however, because they get uncomfortable thinking about their partners looking at their vagina and anus for so long. Don’t worry about it – your guy isn’t going to be noticing that your inner labia are longer than your outer or that you have a little stubble from not having shaved in a couple days. He’s just going to enjoy watching his penis slide in and out of you over and over!

Leave Your Panties On

During foreplay, leave your panties on. Let him rub your clitoris through your panties – bonus points if you get wet enough for him to actually feel or see it through the fabric! When you’re ready for intercourse or oral sex, Pull your panties to the side and let your man do his thing. Pulling your panties to the side to get it on feels super naughty for both of you, and your man will love it!

Let Him Give You A Facial

Some guys enjoy the idea of giving a woman a facial – and not the kind you get at the beauty salon. For whatever reason, some men love the idea of ejaculating on a woman’s face and if you can get past the “gross” factor (or if it doesn’t bother you at all) your man may really enjoy doing this with you. Next time you give him a blowjob, let him finish on your face. It will make him feel like you’re being extra naughty and he won’t be able to keep his hands off you!

Have Impromptu Car Sex – With Road Head

Having sex in public is definitely naughty, so car sex fits the bill. If you want your man to find you truly dirty, surprise him with an impromptu sex session next time you’re on a road trip. Ask him to pull over on the side of the road (make sure its fairly deserted) and hop in the backseat for a quickie. Or, you can give him road head – which he’ll absolutely love. Road head is much easier to give, because it’s harder to get caught doing it.

Go Commando

Next time you and your lover go out to dinner together (or anywhere really), conveniently “forget” to put on panties beforehand. Of course, make sure you’re wearing something that won’t show your cooter when you bend over. Then, lean over and whisper in his ear that you’re not wearing any panties underneath your clothes – and watch as his eyes pop right out of his head! The idea of you not having any panties on all night (especially he gets to cop a quick feel) will make him want to tear your clothes off the minute you get home.

Wear F-Me Shoes

Stilettos make any woman’s legs look miles long – it’s one of the reasons that men enjoy watching women in the adult entertainment industry. If you notice, even in porn, they always wear high heels or platform heels of some kind. That’s because they’re an instant turn on for guys! Next time you’re at the shoe store, get a pair of really sexy f-me shoes and hide them in the closet. Wear them the next time you don your little black dress for an evening out, or better yet, wear the shoes (and only the shoes) next time you want to seduce your lover.

Get Your Tongue Pierced

This may not be your idea of fun, but if you’re open to it, getting a tongue piercing can improve oral sex for guys by quite a bit. Plus, it’s something a lot of “naughty” girls have done. In fact, many guys will instantly start thinking a girl is naughty and extra dirty in the sack as soon as he sees the tongue ring flash in her mouth while she’s talking. If the idea intrigues you, talk to a reputable piercer and ask some questions. You may just leave with a shiny new piece of jewelry that your man will love!

Sex All Around the House

2011-06-10T12:52:00.001-04:00

Sex All Around The House - Book Review

We all need to spice up our lovemaking at one time or another. In fact, it's very important to the well being of your relationship! However, with so many lovemaking books out there, does Michael Webb's latest addition to his lovemaking collection size up and stand out from the crowd? Let's find out…

The Oprah expert's latest book called “Sex All Around The House” takes a very different turn for ways to spice up your lovemaking. Rather than talking about positions, techniques and locations, this book focuses on how everyday household items - yes, the ones already laying around your house - can be used to spice things up.

On first glance, I was a little hesitant of the idea of using things from my house… I mean how many could there possibly be? Ice, oils, candles? Come on! However, I was actually surprised by the amount of unique and wonderful things you can use, and I quote, “to get your partner's engine revving.”

Want to hear some more? Get frisky in a sleeping bag, fun and challenging! Wear nothing but an apron to cook a meal and surprise your partner - great turn-on, especially for men. Play a sexy game using an MP3 player where you each have an earpiece and have to make love without it falling out - including changing positions and giving oral - playable with or without sexy 'penalties.'

There was even one about wearing earplugs! Everyone knows you can heighten sound and touch by blindfolding, but almost no one thinks about trying earplugs to block out sound from your steamy passion. Nice idea to heighten touch and visual sense and create a totally new experience.

I was also surprised to discover that some of these items can be used to make men last longer and even an item that makes some adventurous positions possible. Nice addition!

So as you can see, this book actually has some fantastic and exciting ideas you can use to spice up any lovemaking, no matter how fiery it already is. And best of all, because toys are so expensive, you'll save lots of money (and lots of embarrassment) by using the items you already have around the house.

And were there any downsides? Yes. The book could have had a few more ideas, considering you won't like all of them (no one will like all of them!) but there are definitely enough to keep me VERY happy. :D

All in all, this is a great resource that you'll wonder how you did without. Whether you want to add more fire, perform better in bed or just have more fun, you'll find many tips and ideas to make it happen.

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2011-06-01T12:03:00.001-04:00

Definition of Sexual Fetish

2011-05-17T22:43:00.000-04:00

Definition of Sexual Fetish

First described by Sigmund Freud in 1887, sexual fetishism is a form of paraphilia where the object of affection is a specific inanimate object.
A fetish is an object, not a body part. According to psychology or psychiatric terminology there is no such thing as a 'foot fetish'. That is called a partialism. This is when a part of the body is an extremely important part to achieve sexual arousal. A shoe though, could be a fetish.
A fetish is when a person is sexually aroused by a specific object or objects and is generally unable to achieve sexual satisfaction without that object being present.
What makes a fetish 'fetishism' by definition is that it interferes with your life. It's not just something you like to do, but something you have to do. In other words, there is no other way to have an orgasm except with a shoe, bra or panties present, or whatever that person is into.

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Introduction to Swinging

2011-05-09T14:57:00.001-04:00

Swinging is the act of sharing an honest and intimate relationship with your spouse as well as partake in sex with others. The difference with swinging is that the sex with others is done with full knowledge and openness with your spouse.

Swinging is sometimes referred to as the “Alternative Lifestyle” or “lifestyle’’ for short. It originated in the US during the 1950’s where couples get together and drop their house keys into a bowl. Wives would pick out the keys and whoever owned them, the wives ended going home with the owner of those keys.
Swinging has come along way and you now can find swingers in every town across the US and world. Swinging is now in the mainstream, and most larger cities have a club where swingers get together each week. With the Internet, swingers can communicate over email, video and even chat.

There are three types of Swinging:
Open swinging involves swapping of partners and having sexual intercourse in the same room.

Closed swinging involves swapping of partners but performing the sexual act in different rooms. Experienced couples only practice this kind of swinging as they have developed a higher rate of trust in their spouses.

Soft swapping are couples having sex with their partners in the same room with others, but not swapping.

The answer vary of course but the main theme is to explore their sexual fantasies. Spice up their sex life and have some variety.
Jealousy plays a large role with beginner swingers. It take trust, communications and a strong/stable relationship to swing. It certainly is not for everyone.

What’s the best way to get started?
The first thing to do is make sure you and your significant other are interested in the swinging lifestyle. Knowing what you both want is important; a single woman, a single guy, or another couple. The idea is to start communicating what you like and what you don’t like, what turned you on, and what brought out jealousies. A high percentage of women in the lifestyle are bi-sexual, but not all. The same is not true for men.

The next step is to check swinger websites or visit a local swinger clubs. Research local meet and greets, parties and even regional swing fests in your area. I would suggest not engaging in sex with anyone until you both feel comfortable and agree to explore that next step. Swinging should be fun and exciting, so take your time to trust and communicate with each other, and have fun together. Every couple goes at their own pace. You will know when the time is right. You will meet some fun and sexy people.

Keep Swinging!

2011-05-06T11:52:00.002-04:00

4 Sizzling Sex Games To Try Tonight

by Kaylen Jackson

Whether your sex life is a bit duller than it used to be or you want to make a hot sex life even more scorching, adding sex games to your sexual repertoire can really make things sizzle in the bedroom. Whether you’re playing strip poker or a fun, creative game called “Hands Off,” you and you’re definitely going to be taking things to the next level. Here are 4 sex games to try tonight!

Naked Twister

The classic game of Twister has always had hidden sexual connotations that teenage boys and girls have giggled about for years. Many boys have suffered from blue balls as a result of this game! Now it’s time to capitalize on Twister’s body bending fun for some carnal pleasure. Twister is an inexpensive game that can be purchased at just about any superstore or department store and only contains two pieces – a spinner and a mat with different colored dots on it. As you’re probably already aware, the object of the game for each person to spin the spinner and place their hands or feet on the corresponding colored dots. The fun part is getting all tangled up and of course the first one to fall loses! Make this game super sexy by stripping down to your skivvies (or nothing at all) and playing the game totally naked. The object of the game is the same, but you’ll probably end up bumping uglies – or giving him a twisted blowjob - right there on the Twister mat before the game is even over.

Truth Or Dare

You probably played this game when you were a teenager too, but you can add an adult twist to it to make it more suitable for bedroom activites. Take turns asking each other to choose “Truth” or “Dare.” Truth questions should be more like “what-if” scenarios or “how-would-you” type questions that are related to sex. Do not ask questions like, “how many sex partners have you had” or “what’s the naughtiest thing you’ve ever done” because you may not want to hear the answer to the former and if the latter wasn’t with you, it can definitely create an awkward situation. Dares, of course, can be a lot more fun. You can dare your partner to do something they’ve never tried before but you’ve really been wanting to try with them. Dare them to try using an anal sex toy, or challenge them to give you a blended orgasm.

“Hands Off”

This creative sex game doesn’t involve purchasing anything at all and you can try it tonight – or right now if you like! This game is super fun because both partners are going to get something out of it – most likely a body rocking orgasm! Start with some foreplay, like giving each other oral sex, and move on to the real deal when you’re hot, wet and ready. The trick to this sex game is that you can never use your hands. Neither you nor your partner can use your hands during foreplay or sex, meaning you can’t finger her while going down on her nor can she grasp your hips while you’re penetrating her. The first person to accidentally use their hands loses – and the winner gets a sexual favor of their choice. This is a game that could go on all night!

Strip Poker

Strip poker has been a classic party game for years, but you can turn it into an intimate affair by playing strip poker with your partner. This game is especially effective if you’re trying to teach your partner how to play poker, because the incentive to win is definitely there. You can play different varieties of poker also, for example, if you prefer to play Texas Hold ‘Em, you can play that instead of the regular Five Card Draw. The object of this sex game is easy – for each hand that is lost, the loser removes one article of clothing. This can be your shirt, your bra or even a hairtie or a sock. The more items you have to remove, the longer the game will last. After stripping and getting totally naked, you can turn the heat up a notch by playing for sexual favors instead of clothes. Bet a handjob or see her handjob and raise her a make out session. The ideas here are limitless, as long as you know how to use your sexual creativity! The idea behind sex games is to let yourself go and try new things!

Are You Pushing Him Away by Chasing Him?

2011-05-01T19:46:00.000-04:00

By Rori Raye

Are you chasing after a man and don't even know it?

When you chase a man, you not only tend to unwittingly push him away, but in the end, you don't give him the chance to show you how HE really feels about YOU.
And yet, I know how frustrating it is to sit back and let a man drift away. We want a man to know we're interested in him. We want to make it easy for him to ask us out again. We want to seem enthusiastic and easygoing.
We know we're not supposed to be chasing after him, and yet we're doing it in ways that we're not even aware of.
We think being “friendly” is the same as showing interest in a man. We are taught to think that if we act “casual” a man won't notice that we're actually chasing him.
But, the truth is, we are. And when we do things that seem like we're “chasing” to a man, it's a turn off for him. He feels smothered and feels an aggressive “vibe” from you that does nothing to inspire him to want to get closer.
Here are some things we may think of as “friendly,” that are actually CHASING a man:

“It feels like we're going to lose him by not letting him know we're interested in him.”

Calling him before he calls you. This includes calling him because you heard or read about something interesting, or because you knew there was a great band playing somewhere, or someone told you about some great event that you want to invite him to or - anything at all. It also includes calling to ask why he hasn't called you.
Initiating contact. E-mailing him, texting him, Facebooking him, sending him a cute card, dropping by his house, or in any way attempting to initiate some kind of contact.
Making suggestions or plans. Inviting him to come and join you, or in any way acting like the social director of the relationship.
Asking him how he feels. This includes, especially, asking him how he feels about “you” or the “relationship.”

These are things we do almost without even thinking about it. These are things that feel natural to us, and we excuse them by thinking we're just being “friendly.” And at the heart of this is one fear: Feeling like we're going to lose him by not letting him know we're interested in him.
AND, NOTHING COULD BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH.
Everything on this list is the same as putting a sign on your chest that says “Needy.” It smacks of desperation. And, it's just plain not attractive to him.
He may LIKE it. He may be flattered. He may have no one else around and so he'll date you. He may even come to like you very much. You may even end up in a relationship with him.
But, you will never know how he really feels about you.

Part One: An Erotic Massage for Women

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A. Prepare the Space

Make sure the room is warm and warmly lit.
Ingredients: A massage table, massage oil, lubricant, items which stimulate the senses (feathers, bells, rattles, essential oils), latex gloves, towels, a
vibrator (perhaps covered with a condom, if necessary).

Let the woman receiving massage choose the music.
The woman receiving should feel free to have all the orgasms, she
wishes but the focus of this massage is not on having orgasms.

B. Coming Into the Body

Give this woman a half hour to an hour of full body massage before
you begin the genital massage. Have her lie on her stomach and
massage the back side of her body using stretches, vibrations, glides,
circles and kneading. Brush her skin with your finger tips. Use oil
or corn starch. Massage her scalp. Pinch her fingertips and toes.
Rock her whole body. Invite her to take deep breaths with sounds on
the exhale. Repeat this massage on her front side.

Deer Exercise. Contour your hands around her breasts. Circle
breasts outwards. Massage nipples. Ask her what pressure feels good.

C. Waking Up the Neighborhood

The Heart /Pussy Palm Rest. Rest one hand over her heart, the
other over her vulva. Then massage slowly the channel in between.
Then do 3 breaths together.

Vibrate that Vulva. Place your whole hand over her vulva and
vibrate. Vibrate her heart center with your other hand.

Breath caresses pubs to heart.

Tug On Pubic Hair (to wake up sensation).

Over Eggs Easy. Rub palms together in spirals to generate heat.
Lay palms over her ovary area. This generates much ching chi (sexual energy).

The Womb Warmer. Spiral palms over her uterus area.

Knocking On The G-Spot's (Heaven's) Back Door. Press and dig
fingers into the belly/bladder just above the pubic bone.
You can probe really deeply unless the woman is in her bleeding time.
Let her feedback guide you.

Pussy Petting. Lubricate your hands or sensually drip lube directly
onto her yoni. Pet with long slow strokes, bottom to top and top to bottom.

Pressure points round clock

Outer Labia Lip Massage/Inner Labia Lip Massage. Pinch the lips
between your thumb and fingertips and
lovingly massage. Eventually you can tug, stretching the labia.
(Lip sizes will vary widely. )

Alternate up and down on outer lips

Open her Blossom and Blow. Peel open the labia and blow gently
into her royal pinkness.

Tour de France. Orbit your forefinger around between her inner and
outer labia from perineum to above clitoris.

The Triple Digit Pussy Pet. Use the three longest fingers with
the middle finger gliding along outside of
the vaginal opening, the other two fingers running along the place
where the thigh meets the labia.

Womb Drumming. Tap and slap her whole body, especially the inner
thighs, heart center (chest) and vulva
with your fingers, as if playing a drum.

E. Clitoral Massage

A Gentle Touch and Tickle. Tickle the clit extremely lightly.

Door bell lift totally off clit.

Pinch and pull the clitoris. Gently!

Rock Around The Clit Clock. With your forefinger make tiny circles
around the clit, stopping at every one
of twelve "hours". Many woman are very sensitive at two o'clock.

As She Likes It. Ask her how she like her clitoris massaged, then do it. Be sure to incorporate massaging other areas of her body whenever possible, spreading the energy down her thighs and legs and up her body to her face and her scalp.

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G. Ending the Massage

Be Here Now. With your hand inside of her yoni, slow down to no
movement. Just be there. Meditate.
Leaving The Temple. Withdraw your fingers as slowly as possible.

Allow your partner to savor the afterglow for as long as she
wishes. When she starts to come out of the
afterglow trance, invite her to take ten deep breaths together with
you. Then towel oil from her body.
Allow the towel movements to be part of the massage.
Speak from the heart if desired. Maintain silence if desired.

"With this massage you can satisfy a woman to her core...every
time!" --Annie Sprinkle

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Tantra Massage Tips and Techniques

2011-04-27T13:18:00.001-04:00

What are some of the principles in a sexual tantra massage so you have more pleasure and turn on doing a sensual massage?
Tantra massage is a sensual massage that includes all areas of the body including the genitals.
The aim of tantra massage is to go to profound, deep, spiritual, erotic, blissful, orgasmic trance states.
In two words, incredible pleasure!
Discover some tantra sexual massage tips below for your next massage or add these tips to foreplay. Your lover will thank you, and most likely want to have more sex each week.
Many couples find doing a tantra massage each week is a great way to build intimacy and to keep the sexual energy high.

Tantra Massage Tip One

The aim of a sensual massage is to totally relax all areas of your body. When receiving a tantric massage, go inside your body and relax all tense areas.
You will find that as the energy builds, the more tense you tend to become. Just relax and then relax even more.
Relaxing during a tantra sexual massage allows the energy to move and flow and move in your body away from the pelvic area.
This can lead to full body orgasms for both men and women. Men can learn to have dry orgasms too.

Tantra Massage Tip Two

The breath is an important aspect of tantra sensual massage.
During the massage, breathe more than you normally would do. On the out-breath, it is good to breath out from the mouth.
Make all the effort on the in-breathe and totally relax on the out-breath. Using the breath in this way opens up the emotional and energy channels in the body.
Making some sounds on the out-breath is important to move the energy up from the base chakra.
I tell my clients to sigh with pleasure and to fill the room with their sexual energy.
The breath can take you from your mind to your body. You should be reminded by your masseur to breath more deeply when you forget and go into your head.

Tantra Massage Tip Three

When giving a tantra sensual massage, it is important to be slow and sensual.
One can start with feathers, silk and fur for a special start. Most men touch much too fast and use too much pressure.
Take your time and really enjoy touching your lover. They will feel this in your touch and relax.
Do not focus on trying to turn your lover on as this just gets you in your head and out of your touch and energy.

Tantra Massage Tip Four

Massage all areas of the body and relax the back, neck and all tense areas.
The breasts are the positive pole of a woman's sexual energy.
Spend a lot of time touching, kissing, massaging the breasts and nipples.
The toes can be very erotic too.
Tease by touching the genitals and move away. Do this a few times and your partner will get very hot.
Tantra Massage Tip Five
Including the g spot and the prostate gland is the end point of most tantra massages.
One can learn prostate massage and this can take a man to body shaking orgasms. Spending 20 minutes or longer touching a woman's g spot is a way to take her to deep orgasmic areas.

Your Next Erotic Naked massage?

2011-04-25T19:17:00.001-04:00

Touching your partner in a naked massage is one way of really connecting and becoming intimate. It is a special thing to do before lovemaking too. Here are some naked massage tips:

The first naked massage tip that is important is that it is best to really slow down how you touch. Most of us touch our partners by moving our hands far too fast. One tip is to try moving your hands in sync with your partner breath. So try going up the body on the inhalation and down the body on the out breath.

Most of us are not totally present in our touch in our hands. We are in our heads trying to please or even thinking of something else. Women pick up on this very easily and then find it harder to relax. Most men really need to get into the sensations under their hands and not to try to please their partner in anyway.

Some people are more comfortable with a pillow or rolled bath towel underneath their knees and/or head (when lying face up) or their ankles (when lying face down). Some women will be more comfortable with a pillow underneath their hips. If this is your first massage with your partner you might want to experiment a little, or ask him or her. Ask if the use of an eye pillow or blindfold would be helpful in blocking out any unwanted light for your partner. Putting a CD (or prerecorded tape) of your favorite music on repeat play is a good idea.

Taking the time to create a sensual and appealing environment for your naked erotic massage shows that you care about your partner and really value pleasure. Start by turning off the phones. You may wish to put a "Do Not Disturb" sign on the door, light the room with either candles or soft lamps, burn incense, and turn up the heat to where one would be comfortable lying

down naked.

My next naked massage tip is to use a very soft touch to start a massage. One can see if you can just lightly touch the hairs of their skin. Indeed, some men also like a light touch to start a massage and find it very pleasing. Sometimes people do find a light touch ticklish and uncomfortable. One can ask for feedback if you see some reaction to your light touch. If they give feedback, I always say thanks for the feedback.

One way of doing light touch is to start a massage with a feather, fur or silk. I use some fake fur to lightly touch the body in long, slow strokes, the legs, arms, stomach, and neck. One great place to touch that is very intimate is to lightly touch the face with the fur or silk. I always include a deep and relaxing back massage and pay a lot of attention to the buttocks. It seems most men and women hold a lot of tension in this area.

Try this. A light tapping on the sacrum area can be very stimulating for some women. Then try some long stokes up the legs and over the stomach and up to the chest.

I generally use a fair bit of oil on the body. Grape seed oil is inexpensive or even better is to use some cold pressed sesame oil. Even better if you add a few drops of essential oil to the massage oil. On a cold day, I warm the oil in some hot water or a yogurt heater.It is important to use a room that is warm.

A great tip for a naked massage is to use towels on parts of the body you are not massaging. Even better is to warm the towels near a heater or a towel heater. Another great tip is to use a warm water bottle on the tummy. I generally start with a towel over the top of the body. It is very erotic to very slowly pull the towel off the body. Do this so slow and you will see the pleasure in your partner.

One should vary the speed and also the depth of the strokes. This provides variety and interest. So go light and then a bit deeper and then slow and then faster for each stroke.

We all tend to restrict our breathing. So I always ask my partner to breathe a bit deeper than they usually do. One can ask them to breathe into the belly area and remind them when their breath gets shallow. If they force there breathing they can have sensations of tingling in the hands. Ask them to relax and slow down. If you breathe more giving the massage, you can get more energy in your hands and fingers. This makes the massage more of an energy experience.

Another more advanced technique for a naked massage is to feel of how much you love your partner and move this feeling into your hands and fingers. Your partner will feel the love in your hands and really melt. This can make the massage a healing experience. Many of us have never been touched in this way without any agenda.

When you have finished your naked massage, you should ask your partner to give you a massage. Have fun with these massage tips.

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How to Take Charge in Bed!

2011-04-25T14:59:00.000-04:00

How do you become the initiator of more adventurous sex?

So many women and sometimes men have to get their arms twisted before they get intimate.

Their submissive roles in the bedroom never change.

Why is it important to break out of this role sometimes, and how can you do it?

Ancient Eastern philosophy understands that the woman embodies the Shakti energy or creative force that 'makes the world go around.'

The only problem is women are rarely taught to access it. We live in a world that teaches women to be passive (feminine) and men to be active (masculine).

In truth, both sexes need to embody both the feminine and the masculine to be in true balance with nature. The Yin/Yang symbol represents this concept beautifully.

In most world cultures men carry the responsibility of being the macho, sexy guy who is just supposed to 'get it up.'

Men have had to give up a tender side of themselves in order to fit this stereotype. Women then complain that their men aren't soft, considerate and emotionally available.

It's confusing, isn't it? In reality men need touch, desire, and attention to feel turned on as much as women do. Preconceived notions of male sexuality can actually hinder a man's full sexual response.

Conversely, a woman is often caught in her role of the soft, passive, non-aggressor who expects to put little or no energy into her orgasms, pleasure, and creativeness around sex.

Her partner is supposed to know what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. Not being a woman, or a mind reader, most men fail at this super-human task.

So, how do we bring more balance, adventure and spontaneity into the bedroom? Here are some helpful hints:

Understand that it is your birthright to have as much pleasure as you can handle! Few people feel that they ever deserve that much. We were given so many nerve endings, in just the right places, how could we ever think we weren't meant to have lots of pleasure?
Learn to ask for what you need and desire in a mindful, positive manner. This kind of communication will help you get ahead in all the areas of your life, including the bedroom. Compassionately help your partner learn to ask for what they want.
Women - get your hands on some explicit instructional materials. Your lover will think it's sexy. You can take turns viewing videos, practicing new techniques together, trying new positions from the sex positions guide or even reading a sexy novel to each other. Design two nights a week as your 'study group' time. Plan to set aside time for a quickie and a longer lovemaking session each week. Your erotic quotient will go up exponentially!

That's what the famous 'pillow books' like the Kama Sutra, from the Far East, were for. They showed couples new positions, kissing techniques, touch techniques, and much more. If you get bold enough to try a few new positions, you'll find they tend to break up old patterns and introduce fun, too.
Women - learn and practice your Kegel sexercises. They will help with increasing libido, tightening love muscles for more friction, G-spot sensitivity, continence, and you'll impress your partner, too, with your amazing squeezing strength. (Guys - you too can have amazing PC muscles - and they'll help you have stronger, longer lasting erections too!)
Don't be afraid of your Wild Woman (this goes for the Wild Man too!) What have you got to lose, anyway? Life is too short to be on-guard all of the time. Let go. Dress up in something a little outrageous. Do something that brings a little shock value to the bedroom.

There are many, many ideas, practices and activities that can help you create the intimacy you desire and deserve.

A little adventurous spirit may be required to take risks that will open you up to each other. You'll be more fully your real selves if you do.

Take charge once and awhile and see what happens.

You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain!

How can I make my penis grow bigger?

2011-04-22T01:35:00.000-04:00

Some one asked me this question, and although I believe that we should be happy with what we have, if you really feel the need to increase your penis size,then you should try out these :

Here are four good natural penis enhancement techniques I recommend for rookies. Done properly and consistently, they should add close to an inch or two to your penis in six weeks.

1. Penis stretches. This one is very simple. Just take your flaccid penis and stretch it as far out in front of your body as it will go. Do it gently and gradually and hold it there for thirty seconds. Rest ten seconds between sets and repeat this at least ten times.

2. Jelqing. This is another great technique for rookies. Get your penis halfway erect, apply lubrication, and grip it tightly at the base with the thumb and forefinger of one hand. Slowly slide that hand up the shaft toward the tip, pushing as much blood into your penis as possible. When you reach the tip, immediately grip the base the same way using the other hand and repeat. Do this nonstop for ten minutes.

3. Ulis. This is a great exercise to increase girth. It is also very easy and does not take much time. Achieve a full erection and grip the base of your penis the same way you would if you were jelqing. Squeeze as hard as you can without causing discomfort. Your penis shaft should swell and your penis head should get big and shiny. Hold for ten seconds and rest for ten seconds. Repeat this three or four times.

Do this routine every other day and make sure you warm your penis up before each workout by wrapping it in a hot washcloth for five minutes.

4. A larger penis can be achieved with the use of penis enhancers. There are many forms of penis enhancement products such as penis pumps, pills, patches and topical oils. However, one unique natural product that can produce significant results and makes use of the body's natural abilities comes in the form of a liquid called super-vir http://www.super-vir.com

Always remember, if you are not satisfied with what you were born with, it is never too late to do something about it!

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I’m Attracted To Girls – How Can I Share A Threesome With My Husband?

2011-04-21T16:11:00.000-04:00

She’s attracted to girls, he thinks it’s great – but how can she share a fun, exciting sexual experience with her husband while still staying safe and without upping the ante in their sexual relationship at home?

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Break For Hot Sex!!

2011-03-31T21:48:00.000-04:00

When you feel a strong connection with someone, it's tempting to just go at it. But taking time to savor the experience has a big pleasure payoff.by Elise Nersesian

When you feel a strong sexual connection with someone, it's tempting to tear off his clothes and go at it. But taking time to savor the experience has a big pleasure payoff. "When you engage your body and mind in bed, you'll feel more relaxed, connected to your partner, and aroused—all of which result in better sex," says Logan Levkoff, Ph.D., a certified sexuality educator. "Plus, taking things slowly will stave off your orgasm so that when you finally do peak, it will feel more explosive." Here, tips that will help you extend the act.

Before Sex
In the morning, start getting primed by shooting him a sexy text or sending an e-mail to his personal account: "What are you going to do to me later?" or "I can't wait to get you out of your work clothes." (Just make sure you don't write anything too graphic—you never know who might end up reading it.) According to Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First, "The act of writing stimulates the imagination in ways that other sensory media does not. Writing compels you to fill in the blanks and create your own visuals. The combination of the writer's words and the receiver's interpretation is actually a form of sex in and of itself." Plus, telling him what you're planning to do to him that evening will keep you on his mind all day long.

To become aroused, you need to switch off your amygdala, the portion of your brain that controls fear and anxiety. About an hour before you plan to get busy, draw yourself a steamy bath to calm your mind and awaken your nerve endings; the hot temperature of the water will bring blood to your skin's surface, making your whole body more sensitive to touch. Lather up with some cucumber-scented soap (research says this aroma can be a turn-on), then queue up your favorite music. A study found that listening to familiar tunes lowers anxiety and blood pressure. "The emotional response people have to listening to music they know by heart triggers a deep, relaxing physiological response," says George Stefano, lead study author and director of the NeuroScience Research Institute at the State University of New York College at Old Westbury.

During Sex
Start things off with sensate touch—a series of exercises designed to increase trust and arousal without touching each other's genitals. "The goal of it is to relax and build intimacy," says licensed psychologist and sex therapist Arlene Goldman, Ph.D., coauthor of Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy. She suggests stripping down, then taking 10-minute turns playing giver and receiver, applying stimulation everywhere but the genitals. Don't focus so much on how your touch makes him feel, but rather on how you feel touching him. Slowly stroke his pecs and arms, kiss around his groin, and run your fingers through his hair. When it's his turn to touch you, ask him to lick your inner thighs, rub your lower back and feet, and kiss your neck.

Foreplay is an important part of slow sex. Problem is, couples often motor through it. Prolong it by stopping in the middle to make out, share a sexual fantasy, or exchange massages. Another option: Take a break to give each other oral until you both climax—and then start up again.

Ready for intercourse? Choose a position that encourages you to stare into each other's eyes, such as missionary or girl on top, with him sitting up and facing you. "Positions that give you a full view of each other's naked bodies can build arousal too quickly, while ones that lend themselves to eye contact increase intimacy and tend to build arousal more gradually," says Levkoff. Start moving slowly in random, circular patterns—it will feel good for both of you without building that steady momentum that leads to immediate orgasm.

After Sex
"The time after sex is just as important as foreplay," says Goldman. "It's like eating dessert after a fabulous dinner." Lie still for a few minutes while he stays inside you, focus on the sound of your heartbeats and breathing, and feel the sweat trickling down your bodies. "Staying physically connected like this will keep you both feeling bonded," she says.

Then try a little dirty talk. "Speaking intimately can be a wonderful way to stay connected and prolong the sexual experience, because the dialogue almost puts you into a sexual trance," says psychotherapist Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. Asking specific questions (e.g., "Did you like it when I did X to you?" or "Is your body still tingling too?") helps you stay in the moment more than open-ended questions, which let your mind wander.

If you're yearning for another go-around, tempt him with a little self-stimulation. "By letting him know you're ready for sex again, you'll not only boost his ego but also keep him in a heightened state of arousal," says Kerner. "Since a man's main goal is to keep his partner turned on and sexually satisfied, seeing her all charged up will likely have the same effect on him."

77 Sex Tips

2011-02-06T16:30:00.000-05:00

BACK TO BASICS
Pop in earplugs. It will enhance the sound of your breathing and block out the rest of the world so you can focus solely on your other four senses and enjoying one another’s bodies, says Claire Cavanah, co-author of Sex Toys 101.

Assert yourself. “Women are traditionally more submissive, so switching to a more dominant role can break you out of a sex rut,” says Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First. “You don’t have to don leather and wield a whip; just doing something your partner doesn’t expect of you—like initiating sex as soon as he walks in the door—will make things hotter.

Make out more. Take a trip back to junior high for an evening and restrict yourselves to 10 minutes of kissing and over-the-clothes touching only, says Leigh Anderson, author of Games for Grownups. “Keeping things PG for a set time revs you both up for a more adult encounter,” she says.
Lock eyes. When aroused, your pupils will dilate, so you can track each other’s level of arousal, says Sharon Moalem, Ph.D., author of How Sex Works. It also creates a more intense connection during sex.

Get specific. When you ask “Does this feel good?” your partner feels pressured to say “yes” to avoid killing the mood, says Steve Bodansky, co-author of The Instant Orgasm. But if you ask more detailed questions (faster or slower? To the right or left?), they can give simple, one-word responses—making sex better than just “good.”

Turn on some tunes. According to researchers at Massachusetts General Hospital, listening to your favorite music stimulates the same areas of the brain as sex, enhancing your euphoria during the act.
Women who have graduate degrees or higher have more orgasms, according to a recent Australian survey.

Pick a fight. Healthy debate can be a huge turn-on, says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., WH sex advisor and the author of Touch Me There! A Hands-on Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots. “When you argue, your body reacts as it would during sexual response—your muscles tense, heart rate increases, breathing gets heavier. Part of what makes the sex afterward so hot is not only the release of the body’s heightened state but this feeling that you’ve conquered your ‘opponent’ in some way.”

Nix the marathon. A survey of sex therapists concluded that the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes—good news, considering the average Joe only lasts 7.8 minutes. So quit worrying about breaking a record, and spend more time on foreplay. You’ll both enjoy it.

DOCTOR'S ORDERS
Double-check your meds. A recent study from the University of California, San Diego found that many drugs, including those used to treat high cholesterol, depression, and anxiety, can reduce sexual pleasure. Talk to your doctor about switching meds or finding an alternative to popping pills.

Use two forms of birth control. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University found women who use a hormonal contraceptive plus condoms report higher overall sexual satisfaction. Researchers believe it’s because when women are less worried about pregnancy or STDs they can relax and enjoy the experience more.

Hit the mat. A recent study in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that yogis have better sex. Women in the study who began practicing yoga reported improvements in levels of arousal and desire, as well as better orgasms. Plus, the increased flexibility will come in handy.

Get your Kundalini on. This type of yoga focuses on breathing techniques that can actually intensify your orgasm when employed during sex, says Sharon Moalem, Ph.D., author of How Sex Works.
Practice the “long deep breathing” for two to five minutes daily: Sit cross-legged with your hands on your knees and inhale, filling your lungs but envisioning sending the air to your lower abdomen. Once your lungs are completely full, hold for a moment, press your shoulders back, and expand your chest so you can feel light pressure on your diaphragm. Then slowly let out all the air.

Don’t skip the gym. Your regular workout can be just as good for your sex life. A University of British Columbia study found that women who got just 20 minutes of exercise a day had better sex than women who didn’t work out. Now that’s a reason to break a sweat.

Don’t let him skip the gym. A recent study from the University of Utah found that obese men have lower levels of testosterone, but when they lose the weight, the hormone levels rise—along with sex drive. Plus, another study from the University of California at Berkeley found that sniffing male sweat elevated the chemical that causes arousal in women for up to a full hour afterward.

FRISKY FOREPLAY
Wear stilettos. A 2008 study by an Italian doctor found that wearing heels directly works the pleasure muscles linked to orgasm. So much sexier than Kegels.

Send him a hoochymail. Text and e-mail are great ways to seduce, but can easily be seen by other people (read: your boss). For safe and secure sexting, go to HoochyMail.com to share your fantasy with your significant other. It’s free.

Get a rolling-pin massage. Have him rub some massage oil on a rolling pin and gently run it over your shoulders and back. It will help you unwind from your day so you can be fully present during sex, says Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., author of The Good Girls’ Guide to Bad Girl Sex.

Set up a mirror. According to research from the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health in Toronto, women are more visual than we thought. Seeing yourself engaged in the act will heighten your arousal.

Skip the happy ending. Massage each other’s bodies—and that’s it. “Tell each other what feels good, and experience the enjoyment of arousal without the pressure to perform,” says Gail Saltz, M.D., author of The Ripple Effect: How Better Sex Can Lead to a Better Life. The next time you get busy, you’ll know exactly what turns him on.

Hug for 20 seconds. Before you get busy, hold each other in a tight embrace. “Hugging raises your level of oxytocin, a bonding hormone you produce naturally, and that will enhance your connection,” says Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First.

Make an obscene phone call. Call your man from another room and talk dirty to him. When you’re not face-to-face, it’s easier to lower your inhibitions about verbalizing whatever naughty thoughts you want to share. And if you call him up or leave a dirty voice mail for him during the second week of your cycle—he won’t be able to resist. According to Australian researchers, men find women’s voices sexier when they’re ovulating.

Sync up your breath. When you’re spooning (either during sex or not), have one of you take the lead in breathing; the other person follows so you inhale and exhale together. “It increases the intimacy of sex,” says Karinna Kittles-Karson, author of Intimate Wisdom, The Sacred Art of Love.

Don’t wait until you’re in the mood. Recent research suggests women’s arousal is more elicited than self-generated, says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., founder of Mypleasure.com, an online adult toy store. “Even if you don’t feel like having sex, you’ll most likely become aroused in the process.”

TOYS TO TRY
Stick him up. Instead of scarves, try All-Tied Up Bonding Tape. It sticks only to itself—not your skin—for painless domination. If your man isn’t sure how he feels about being bound, just slip the opening of an already-tied tie over his wrists. That way, he can escape more easily.

Use this vibrator during sex. The We-vibe is the first vibrator that can be used during intercourse. Inserted into your vagina, the u-shaped device stimulates your clitoris and G-spot simultaneously—and is narrow enough to still allow him entry.

Switch up the beat. Try a new toy, such as the Champ, so you can thump or pitter-patter your way to an orgasm in addition to getting the usual buzz.

Refrigerate your lube. Stash a tube in the fridge. The chill will give it a thrilling sensation when applied.

Use your finger vibe on him. Hold it against his perineum,the space between his anus and testicles, says Pamela Doan, a spokesperson for Babeland. This will send a buzz to his prostate, a much overlooked erogenous zone.

Use your balance ball. That big bouncy ball doesn’t just give crunches an extra punch. “Sit on it during oral sex, or experiment with it in different sex positions,” Karinna Kittles-Karson, author of Intimate Wisdom, The Sacred Art of Love. “The options are limitless.”

Try a new lube. The newest on the market do more than just lubricate—many, such as KY’s Intense and Durex’s Play-O, encourage blood flow to the clitoris to provide warming and tingling sensations.

Use him as a sex toy. Without ever letting him enter you, slide up and down against his penis to bring yourself to orgasm.

Use a new toothbrush as a sex toy. Experiment with the smooth end to stroke sensitive places, and use the bristles to create a new sensation on your erogenous zones, like the bottoms of your feet or back of your neck.

Go wireless. The Crybaby remote-control vibrator can be operated from as far away as 98 feet. Give him the clicker and let him go wild. You’ll discover a whole new meaning for PDA.

GET FELT UP
Press on your ovaries. When he’s going down on you, have him apply consistent pressure on either side of your navel (a little-known erogoneous zone)—it can boost your orgasm, says Emily Dubberly, co-author of The Going Down Guide.

Create a body-part connection. While he’s stroking your clitoris, have your partner stroke another body part (your neck, your breast, your stomach) at the same time. If you do it often enough, eventually just stroking the body part by itself will cause sensations in your clitoris, says Steve Bodansky, co-author of The Instant Orgasm.

Unclench. “Most women tighten all their muscles when they’re about to have an orgasm,” says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., founder of Mypleasure.com, an online adult toy store. “If you keep them as relaxed as possible, you’ll go to a higher state of arousal get a bigger orgasm.”

Have an aftershock orgasm. In Tantra, these are called kriyas, (Sanskrit for action). During sex, have your partner run his hands up your spine and concentrate on bringing the sensations through your body. When things get pleasurable your body should start to shake or quake. The key is to allow it to happen. “Most women will begin to shake and stop themselves because they think it’s weird,” says Jaiya Hanauer, co-author of Red Hot Touch. “But if they let it go, it can be an incredibly powerful orgasm.”

Have him gently kiss your eyelids. The thin skin of the eyelids lacks subcutaneous fat, so the nerve endings are close to the surface. That makes them as sensitive to pleasure as other erotic areas of your body.

Be a sole mate. “The foot has 7,000 nerve endings,” says reflexology expert Michelle Ebbin. Pressing on the hollow areas just under the ankle bones on the inside of both feet is a direct energy channel to the sexual organs. Start gently with slow thumb circles to unleash your partner’s hidden passion.

Play “This little piggy” Sucking his big toe is like giving him a mini blowjob, says Sharon Moalem, Ph.D., author of How Sex Works. That’s because toes are hardwired to pleasure centers in your brain. If foot funk makes you queasy, wash his feet off as part of foreplay.

Explore your partner’s face. ”Facial skin is incredibly sensitive, so a sensual, sexy exploration of your partner’s face can be very erotic,” says Stephanie Buehler, Psy.D., a sex therapist and the director of the Buehler Institute in Irvin, California. “Use your fingertips, lips, or tongue to get intimate with each other’s faces and create sexual arousal.”

Exfoliate. Scrub your skin with a loofah before sex to make it more sensitive to touch.
Have him nibble on your neck. While stimulating your clitoris, have your guy pay attention to little-known erogenous zones like the side of your neck or the backs of your knees. This can make your orgasm more intense.
NETHER REGIONS
Make your tongue flutter. When you’re going down on your man, imagine your tongue as humming bird’s wings on slow speed, says Karinna Kittles-Karson, author of Intimate Wisdom, The Sacred Art of Love. Touch the underside of your vibrating tongue gently to the head of his penis occasionally for added stimulation.

Blow hot and cold. When you go down on him, have an ice cube and a cup of warm tea nearby. Every few minutes alternate between sucking on the ice and sipping the hot tea. The sensations will drive him wild, says Pamela Doan, a spokesperson for Babeland.

Help him find the female “prostate.” This seldom-talked-about body part (technically glands around the urethra that mimic the male prostate and are found in the same area as your G-spot) can reward you with a bigger, more intense orgasm. Have him insert two fingers into your vagina and make a “come here” motion with them. If you feel slight pressure, like the need to pee (the female prostate surrounds the urethra), he’s hit the jackpot, says Sharon Moalem, Ph.D., author of How Sex Works.

Find a new use for your finger vibe. “Hold it against the outside of your cheek when you’re performing oral sex on him,” says Pamela Doan, a spokesperson for Babeland. “The sensation will drive him wild.”

Get deep. You don’t have to be a porn star to be good at oral sex. Just lie on your back with your head tilted slightly backward off the edge of the bed. Let your guy stand on the floor directly behind you and enter your mouth from above. “Your throat will naturally open up, making you less likely to gag,” says Claire Cavanah, co-author of Sex Toys 101.

Use double digits. Have him insert two fingers into your vagina and open them up in a V-shape. “Making a ‘come here’ motion, like he would for the G-spot, will stimulate the roots of the clitoris inside your vagina and bring on different orgasmic sensations,” says Jaiya Hanauer, co-author of Red Hot Touch.

Hold him tight. Before going down on him, stroke his penis from the tip to the base and hold the skin taut there. “This allows the nerve endings to be closer to the surface, making the penis sensitive and oral sex more erotic,” says Jaiya Hanauer, co-author of Red Hot Touch.

Pump him up. Wrap your index finger and thumb around the base of his penis and, without touching the rest of his shaft, alternately squeeze, creating a harder, more intense erection, says Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First.

POSITION UPGRADES
Update doggy-style. “Stepping Tiger” improves on a classic. To do it, kneel on the edge of the bed and lean forward to place the palms of both hands flat on the floor. This allows your partner to enter you from behind at an angle that better targets your G-spot, says Karinna Kittles-Karson, author of Intimate Wisdom, The Sacred Art of Love.

Rearrange the pillows. Give old positions a new feel by stacking pillows of varying sizes and shapes under different body parts during the deed. Try putting one or two under your butt during missionary. The elevation will give him a different angle of entry—and hopefully hit you in just the right spot.

Do it CAT-style. That’s the Coital Alignment Technique. Think missionary, but instead of holding himself over you with his arms, he’s lying fully on top of you, chest to chest. When he’s inside you, the base of his penis should rub against your clitoris and stay there as you move together—rocking instead of thrusting. This greatly increases the woman’s chance of climaxing, says Tracey Cox, author of Secrets of a Super Sexpert.

Find an opening. Doorways are the ultimate sex tool, says Tracey Cox, author of Secrets of a Super Sexpert. Have your guy lean on the door frame and back up into him—there are plenty of free edges for both of you to grab onto for support.

Order a position how-to manual. Invest in a guide like the Kama Sutra. Then put Post-its on the pages you want to try and leave them on your partner’s nightstand for him to see your favorites.
Lean back. When you’re on top of him having sex, lean all the way back. “It gives him a great view or your torso and also easy access to stimulate your clitoris with his hands,” says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., founder of Mypleasure.com, an online adult toy store.

Get off your knees during doggy-style. “After he enters you from behind, slowly scooch down until you’re lying flat on your stomach, keeping your legs together,” says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., founder of Mypleasure.com, an online adult toy store. “It creates a deep angle and intense G-spot stimulation.”

Get your balance. Reverse cowgirl is a favorite position for many women, but it can be killer on your quads. Have him sit on a chair so that your legs have room to move, or grab onto a headboard to increase your balance and ease the burden on your thighs.

Have a seat. Straddle your man while he sits cross-legged. Instead of moving up and down or back and forth, both of you should move in a circle—you lean back then to the right, he leans back and then to the left. Follow each other and it should look like a dance—and feel amazing, says Karinna Kittles-Karson, author of Intimate Wisdom, The Sacred Art of Love.

GAMES TO PLAY
Play dress-up. “Role-playing can be a big turn-on,” says Sharon Moalem, Ph.D., author of How Sex Works. “Buy him the gear and then send him e-mail instructions on when to wear it. Instead of your man coming home from work that night, the hot “cable guy” could show up.

Add a guideline to your porn-watching. You can touch him but, he can’t touch you. Then swap roles.
Play hide and seek. You hide, he seeks. When he finds you, the prize is getting down and dirty wherever you are. “Any kids’ game can be made into a sexy game,” says Leigh Anderson, author of Games for Grownups.

Fake a sex tape. Script your own porn with your guy and act it out in front of a camera—without pressing record. “It creates the feeling of exhibitionism without worrying about the evidence,” says Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First.

Make a yes/no/maybe list. With your partner, write down every dirty, far-fetched sexual act you’ve ever heard of and then each person says whether they would, wouldn’t, or might try the act. “You may have sexual interests in common that you’ve never explored,” says Pamela Doan, a spokesperson for Babeland.

Have him spank you. The occasional love tap may not just be for kinksters. According to scientists at Northern Illinois University, spanking can increase the bond between couples. Plus, women get a boost of testosterone when they are on the receiving end—possibly the body’s way of coping with the “stress” of the situation. Whatever the reason, it translates to a boost in sex drive.

Play Scrabble. “Competition raises testosterone levels in both men and women, increasing sexual arousal and response,” says Sharon Moalem, Ph.D., author of How Sex Works.

Go bungee jumping together. Or rock climbing. Or anything that’s a little bit risky before you jump in the sack. “Trying something new or exciting before sex delivers a burst of dopamine, a chemical that activated the pleasure centers in your brain. That carries over to more exciting sex afterward,” says Gail Saltz, M.D., author of The Ripple Effect: How Better Sex Can Lead to a Better Life
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Point and click. Adultsexygames.com has free downloadable games that you can play with your partner. Try Romantic Dares, where you take turns flipping over virtual cards onscreen with sexy dares for you to complete.

HONEST APHRODISIACS
Have some licorice. Loop a piece of licorice around his penis (keep it loose!) Then slowly eat it off of him. Licorice is an aphrodisiac, says Sharon Moalem, Ph.D., author of How Sex Works, and it’s considered a stimulant for women.

Edit your underwear drawer. Toss the granny panties—when you feel sexy in your underthings, then you’ll act sexier in the bedroom, which leads to—you guessed it—hotter sex, says Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., author of The Good Girls’ Guide to Bad Girl Sex.

Break out the wine. Researchers at the Santa Maria Nuova Hospital in Italy found that women who consumed one to two glasses of red wine a day had more sexual desire and natural lubrication than those who didn’t.

Get out of the bedroom. “Most couples have sex in the same place every time,” says sex therapist Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., founder of Mypleasure.com, an online adult toy store. “Any change in venue—like the hallway or the bathroom—increases the excitement.”

Heat things up. Capsaicin, the substance in hot peppers that gives them their kick, raises your heart rate and triggers the release of endorphins, giving you a natural high that makes sex that much better, says Sharon Moalem, Ph.D., author of How Sex Works.

Combine pumpkin and lavender. The purple flower has one of the most arousing scents in the world. Plus, when mixed with the aroma of pumpkin pie, blow flow increases to the penis by 40 percent, according to a study by the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago.

Take off your top. Forget the blindfold and cover his eyes with the shirt you were wearing. The added bonus of your scent will drive him wild—natural body odor is a huge aphrodisiac, says Sharon Moalem, Ph.D., author of How Sex Works.

Use scent to evoke sexy memories. Have him wear the cologne he wore on your first date, or bake the first dessert you shared. “Smell is incredibly powerful when it comes to memory,” says Sharon Moalem, Ph.D., author of How Sex Works. “You can instantly transport yourselves to the beginning of your relationship— a time when sex was ultra-hot.”

Hide his razor. A man with a 5 o’clock shadow is a bigger turn-on than one who is clean-shaven, according to a recent study from Northumbria University. Researchers believe that women evolved to subconsciously seek out men with masculine features (like stubble) because in caveman days they were more able to protect them from danger.

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Just in time for Valentine's Day...

2011-01-30T19:52:00.003-05:00

Just in time for Valentine's Day....we took some of our favorites and put them together to create gifts your Valentines is sure to enjoy!

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5 Ways To Ask For What You Want In A Relationship

2011-01-26T12:12:00.002-05:00

There is nothing that can impact our lives more than when we are functioning at our best in our lives and in our relationship. It impacts our overall happiness, the way we go about our jobs, and all areas of our lives. But how do we do it? How do we get to the point where we are at our best and helping our partners be their best as well?

Here are a few tips:

1. Always tell your partner when he/she is doing something that is making you happy. Most of us make it a habit to tell our partners when they are doing something we are not pleased with, in hopes that they will learn from this information and stop doing that thing. This isn't usually the outcome though, is it? In fact, we end up learning a lot of information about what makes our partners upset and a greater sense of negativity hovering around the subject. The opposite is also true. When we make it a habit of telling our partners when we are pleased with them, they learn a lot about what makes us happy and begin to associate positive feelings with these desirable behaviors. This allows for a relationship to be built on assets instead of deficits.

2. Invite your partner to inform you when you are doing something that is pleasing to them. Similar to above, this allows for the conversation between two partners to be built on pleasant information instead the usual deficit conversations. The simple truth is it is easier to repeat a pleasurable behavior than it is to stop an unpleasant behavior. So, it makes more sense to create opportunities for have conversations about what we are doing well instead of doing what most people do, discuss the opposite.

3. Discuss how these changes are impacting the relationship and each other's lives.Periodically it is important to consistently review if the relationship is moving in the direction that both parties would like and to set new relationship goals. Think about it, corporations do it at board meetings. They review how the previous year (or quarter) has gone for the corporation and what they would like to get accomplished in the future. We should also do this in our relationships. Talk about what is working well for each partner in the recent past and what needs to happen in the future to keep the relationship moving in the proper direction.

4. Get what you want from your partner by NOT telling him/her how you feel. When I went to therapy as an adult, one of the best things I got out of it was that my therapist taught me three things: how to get in touch with my feelings, how to own my feelings and how to express my feelings. I was very proud of mastering the ability to do all three. I especially liked telling my partners how I felt when they upset me. This master skill turned out to be a great formula for short-term relationships.

My therapist never focused on the fact that just because I could now express my feelings that it didn’t mean that my partner would welcome that expression of those feelings. In fact that expression was downright unwelcomed. When I was dating, my "great communication skills" usually lead to the untimely death of that relationship.

Now, as a trained relationship-saving marriage counselor, here’s what I teach my clients to do with their upset feelings: Don’t stuff them, don’t express them to your partner AND don’t deny them. Well, what's left?

Here’s what to do instead:

I. When your partner triggers negative feelings in you, give yourself a time out. If you can’t think of what to say, just say, "I need to take a bathroom break." Remember, it’s not wrong to communicate when you are in negative emotional state. It’s just guaranteed to make things worse between the two of you.

II. When you’re calm, resume contact with your partner and rather than telling them what they did wrong do "positive alternative communication." In other words, with all positive language ask for what you want instead. Positive language is not about ignoring the negative emotion you felt. It just is much more likely to get you the positive responses and change in behavior you’d like to get from your partner--so you don't have to feel that negative emotion again. The Secret To A Happy Marriage?

For example, rather than saying "You're such a jerk. You're so rude and disrespectful to me. When I’m talk to you you’re always texting one of your friends…" Vs. "It's really important to me that when you and I are spending time together that we both turn our phones off and give each other our full attention. Would you be willing to do that?"

You can't have it both ways in the same conversation. You can either get things off your chest, which will most likely to cause your partner to withdraw from you, defend his/her position or verbally attack you OR you can use "positive alternative communication" when you're calm and have a much better chance of getting what you want from them.

5. Make sure you are willing to receive. Once, I traveled by car with a beautiful colleague, a former flight attendant. Passing through towns, she said: "My ex gave me two lamps like those in that store." "My first boyfriend gave me a dog like that." I finally asked her: "How do you have so many of the things you want given to you by men? Is it just because you're so beautiful?"

"No," she responded. "I know that a man I am with is going to want to give me things, so I just tell him what I want; and he gives it to me!"

"I believe I burden a man by expecting him to give to me," I almost shouted.

"Don't you like to give to people? Wouldn't you prefer to give them something you know they want?" Most people do!

Thenceforth, I changed my beliefs and actions. I still refuse to view a date or partner as a "gift-giving machine," yet I have opened my mind to receive what someone wants to give me. I have appended the old adage that it is "better to give than to receive." I now receive because I know it allows another person to give, while simultaneously feeling good to me.

We all love to get what we want in our relationships, whether "things" or "attention and acts of love." What I now know is that my friend was enthusiastic about receiving. The principle is "enthusiasm draws." Her enthusiasm for the gift and the giver encouraged giving. She also gave a lot.

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2010-12-02T22:41:00.000-05:00

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2010-11-11T21:56:00.010-05:00

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2010-11-08T09:36:00.000-05:00

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Six Cunnilingus Games to Try!

2010-11-03T14:48:00.000-04:00

Six Cunnilingus Games to Try!
by Gabrielle Moore

So who says eating her out is boring? (It never is for HER you know.) But if you and your partner already engage a lot in cunnilingus then you may want to up the heat factor a bit with these hot, erotic, and mind-blowing cunnilingus games!

6 Cunnilingus Games to Try Tonight

The Alphabet or Spelling Game
This cunnilingus game is very easy to do. Using your tongue, simply write out a letter of the alphabet and make her guess what that letter is. For the more ‘advanced’ players, you can move on to spelling certain words or phrases like “I love you” or “Horny”. Not only does this game make cunnilingus more exciting, it also helps to put a nervous woman at ease because she’s forced to focus on deciphering your letters or words than on any insecurities she may have.

My personal favorite is when my lover writes the letter “i”. Of course, the dot on the “i” lands on my clit!

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The Hot n’ Cold Game
This game makes use of ice cubes or ice cream. Simply lavish her pussy with your licking and then take a short pause to put an ice cube in your mouth for a few seconds. Take out the ice cube and go directly back to licking her! The hot and cold sensations on her pussy will drive her wild. Guaranteed! For variation, a bowl of ice cream beside you will also be great.

The Soft n’ Rough Game
According to many women, the best licking is the soft, steady and slow licks. But just as when she’s already relaxed and into your cunnilingus play, change your licking style a little and ‘rough her up’ a bit. Go from slow and soft, to fast and hard licking just to shock her. Then go back again to slow and soft. Warning: do NOT do this when she’s already hot and shouting “yes… yes…” because this means that you’ve already hit the winning motion and she’s really turned on now or about to come. In this scenario, the last thing she needs is for you to change or alter what you’re doing. Got it?

The ‘Food Plate’
I personally love this cunnilingus variation! Here, her pussy becomes a veritable plate of delicious food offerings waiting for you to be devoured. My lover specifically enjoys this when he’s hungry (literally!) so that he’s really into eating the food placed on top of my pussy.

The food you use is really all up to you guys so long as they are in small, bite-size pieces. For example, you can have some cut-up fruit, some sushi pieces, and of course whipped cream figures in this equation most of the time.

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The Exhibitionist
In this particular cunnilingus game, you play the spectator and she the performer, at least at the start. May women, claim that their men have no clues how to please them ‘down there’. For men, they equally claim that it’s not as if there’s a manual to cunnilingus. Furthermore, many women are actually shy or inhibited during cunnilingus that it’s hard to decipher what they do and don’t like.

Well, this game ends the speculation. First, the man sits on a chair opposite the bed. The woman who’s lying on the bed, with her legs spread and facing him, then begins to play with herself. This is a gigantic turn-on for him, making him want to eat her pussy all the more. But more than that, the ‘show’ actually enables him to know how she wants to be touched and licked.

Just when she’s really wet and into pleasing herself, get out of the chair and do cunnilingus on her!

Three’s NOT a Crowd
If you’re the really adventurous type of couple then a three-some is not out of the question, right? For most couples I know, they prefer the 2 women, 1 man combo. This is because most men have fantasies of being in bed with more than one woman anyway. As for the woman, it’s not really hard for her to imagine being made love to by another woman as opposed to men thinking of having sex with other men.

In this cunnilingus game, you and the 3rd person can simply take turns eating your woman out or she can focus on your partner’s other glorious parts while you perform cunnilingus on her.

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2010-10-29T13:01:00.000-04:00

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2010-10-26T09:30:00.000-04:00

The Game Of Domination

2010-10-18T22:39:00.003-04:00

“Woman is the dominant sex. Men have to do all sorts of stuff to prove that they are worthy of woman’s attention.” – Camille Paglia

Domination can have a lot of meanings when it comes to game-play in the bedroom – it can be everything from blindfolding your partner to breaking out the whips, chains, and ball-gags. Almost all of my female friends agree (including moi): nothing is more of a turn-on than being dominated. It’s a primal urge that all of us seek to fulfill at some point in our sex lives, and when you’re involved with someone where trust is involved, it can be extremely exciting and satisfying.

Don’t take a woman home for a one-night stand and think you can get away with handcuffing her – trust me, she’ll be dialing “911″ faster than you can do up your pants! The game of domination is for couples only – without trust, neither party will be able to fully enjoy being dominated.

If you and your partner want to engage in some domination play, then heed the advice below.

Start slowly
If dominating your spouse is one of your fantasies, then broach the topic carefully and ease your way in. What I mean is, start with some light domination, such as tying her up, the aforementioned blindfolding, or some light spanking. Save the latex and paddles for a few weeks down the road.

Even if you’ve been married for years, approaching the topic of domination should be done gradually and with sensitivity.

Take turns
Some couples prefer to always let the man be the dominator and the woman be the dominee, or vice versa, but for the most part, I think everyone has fantasies to be both. So take turns! Let her control you one night and then have a turn of your own the next time.

Speak up!
One of the most exciting parts of domination games is the vocalizing – ask her if she wants to be spanked, tell her what you’re going to do to her, ask her to tell you what she likes. If you’re busy pleasuring her while she’s wearing a blindfold and you’re both on mute, it won’t be very exciting. This is the time to choose your (dirty) words and get talking.

Playtime
Toys for the game of domination can range from fun and silly to extreme and hardcore. They all have their place in the bedroom when introduced in the right way. These are the types of toys you should pick out together. I love going to a sex shop with a guy – it’s like foreplay. Secondly, you don’t want to bring home a spiked collar and leash when your wife had more of a feather tickler in mind – seek out toys that you are both comfortable with. Finally, never surprise your other half with a sex toy – an unexpected whip-lashing on the bottom will not be well-received.

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2010-10-14T09:58:00.001-04:00

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3 Lessons You Can Discover from Your Girl’s Vibrator

2010-10-01T11:21:00.000-04:00

It’s pretty common for a guy to be a little put off at first by his girl’s big, monster sex toy. A lot of men think that the vibrator or sex toy is there to replace them or because he isn’t quite delivering just right.

But you know what? You need to get over that feeling and pronto! Her sex toy will surprise you – in a pleasant way! – if you give it a chance and you’ll be amazed at how easily you can learn to like them just as much as she does.

3 Lessons You Can Discover from Your Girl’s Vibrator

You can discover a whole new sensation by turning the vibe on and holding it to different parts of your body. Sure, her mouth feels good on your genitals, but a light vibration may feel even better! Don’t forget to try out the different speeds and intensities too.

• You can find erogenous zones that you never knew existed. You may have wondered what all the hype is about the perineum or ‘taint’. Using a vibrator on it may show you! And since some of you may be scratching your heads right now, here’s a little ‘Perineum 101’ for you: it refers to the little space between your balls and your backdoor.

• You may realize that something in your behind does actually feel good! Depending on the size/girth of the toy, you may be so inclined as to experiment with a little backdoor play while alone and away from possible judgment and learn that a finger or toy up the ass is NOT gross, DOES feel awesome and DOES NOT MAKE YOU GAY!!!

Some Pluses about Using Sex Toys in Your Relationship

Once you and your ego have gotten over the ridiculous fear of being replaced by the scary plastic adult toy, there are a few hot things that you can do with sex toys in your relationship that could really make it worth considering.

Here are some bonuses that come from bringing sex toys into your relationship.

They make her a more sexual person. Why would you want to stop her from expressing or enjoying her sexuality with a toy or anything else for that matter?? Her using sex toys help to keep her sexual and who reaps the rewards of that? YOU, right?

They make for a great show. Watching your partner use her sex toy on herself is totally hot! Think of the X-rated display that you can have right there in front of you that doesn’t cost you $20 per 10 minutes and isn’t limited to the 15.4 small inches of your computer screen!

You can use it on her. Maybe it’s a power thing, but lots of men are turned on by inserting things into their partners and really taking their partner’s pleasure into their own hands—literally. Imagine how hot it’ll be to use it on her and watch as she writhes around in ecstasy!

It can heat things up. Let’s face it, sex can get a little routine or stale when you’ve been with the same person for a long time. Bringing sex toys into the bedroom can really help to spice things up for both of you. There’s a reason why they’re also referred to as ‘marital aids’, and that’s because they are proven to add a little something that doesn’t involve straying, when things are stuck in a rut. Check out toys made for couples or for guys too. You’ll be amazed at what you can find to help you both get off electronically!

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My Favorite Role-Playing Games

2010-09-27T20:53:00.001-04:00

“I know nothing about sex, because I was always married.” – Zsa Zsa Gabor

Zsa Zsa was exaggerating (kinda)… your sex life can be just as exciting once you’re married as long as you keep things fresh and new in the bedroom. Nothing can kill your libido like redundancy, and one of the best (not to mention fun) ways to spice things up is by engaging in some fanciful role-playing.

There are all kinds of role-playing games out there – some only require your creativity and others entail costumes and props – you can get as wild as you want. Getting into character is all about fantasy, so sky’s the limit.

I present to you, my little pupils, my favorite role-playing games.

Victim/rescuer
It sounds super cliche, but this is a fun one – you could be the fireman and she could be the damsel in distress in the burning building, you could be the lifeguard and she could be the beautiful drowning victim, you could play the cowboy and she could be the sexy cowgirl who needs to be saved from the big, bad town bully… you can don outfits and use props (like lassos) or leave everything to your imagination. Women love to feel like they’re being “saved” by a big, strong man – it’s the classic fantasy. Pick her up and sweep her off to the bedroom, give her mouth-to-mouth to revive her – save her from sexual stagnation for heaven’s sake!

Doctor/patient
I was seeing a guy who was an actual doctor, so it was relatively easy to carry out this role-playing game – he was quite cocky and loved the fact that he was a physician (he also loved it when I’d call him “Doc”), and I didn’t mind letting him explore my body for a “check up.” I especially loved when he gave me a breast exam “for good measure.”

I don’t know what it is about this fantasy but it’s super hot – and you can switch things up by reversing roles – let her play the smutty nurse and you can be the patient who needs an oral exam. Either way, trust me – it will gets your hearts racing, the juices flowing, and you may just need an EKG machine.

Dominator/dominee
When I meet up with my girlfriends and we talk sex, the most commonly shared fantasy amongst them seems to be the dominator/dominee role-playing game. Women like to be both controlled as well as controlling, so this is a great activity because you can take turns. Couples can benefit most from this game if they’ve established a good level of trust – maybe that involved creating certain limits beforehand or having something like a “safe word.” Either way, once there’s mutual understanding, this game can be a lot of fun.

Maybe you want her to perform oral sex on you while you hold her head, you could blindfold her or you could tie her hands to the headboard. And remember: all of these things can be done to you too. Take turns telling each other exactly what it is you want, whether it be for her to touch herself, touch you, or more. Try taking the reins one night and then letting her be in the driver’s seat the next time around.

10 Ways to Better Sex!

2010-09-19T11:33:00.003-04:00

A lot of attention is given to spring cleaning, but we do a lot of reflecting and reorganizing during the autumn months too. With the fall season wafting in, we're all thinking of ways we can improve our lives. While you're making improvements, why not pay some attention to your sex life? Here are ten ways to have better sex today -- and let the good times roll into fall, winter, spring and summer.

1. Let's Talk About Sex
Don't wait until the lights go out and the clothes come off for sex to enter your relationship. Let sex be a frequent topic of discussion. Tell your partner what you like and ask him what he's into. The more sex is on your mind, the more likely you'll get it on. The more sex you have, the better at it you'll get. See how that works?

2. Love your "Jiggly Parts"
We applauded when Niecy Nash told her "Dancing with the Stars" partner, "I like my jiggly parts." It's time for us to take a note out of Nash's book. When you and your man are closer than close, he's not thinking about any of your imperfections, so you shouldn't be wasting precious time that you could be using to focus on your pleasure, thinking about them either -- and that goes for any other "flaws" you think you may have. Free your mind and the rest will follow.

3. Anything Goes
As long as you and your partner are not causing each other pain, you should feel free do whatever you want when you get down. Handcuff him to the stairs. Make a sex tape and watch it together. Have a mutual masturbation session. Bring out the sex toys. Like BT Express said, "Do it 'til you're satisfied, whatever it is."

4. Move It All Around
If you've been with your partner for a while, you probably both know what positions work to get you to orgasm. But every session doesn't have to be like Monday morning quickie sex. Trying a new position and discover a new sensation. You can always go back to old faithful when you're ready to erupt.

5. Pencil It In
We know this goes against your spontaneous side, but experts keep saying if you want more sex, you have to make time for it. On your lunch break, get on the phone and call up your man and ask him when he's free for a sex date and make it count.

6. Watch Your Meds
It's been noted that certain medications -- like antidepressants, blood pressure meds and some birth control pills -- can inhibit your libido. If your sex drive has gone down while you've been taking a new pill, talk to your doctor about going to a lower dosage or switching medications.

7. Play Pretend

Yes, purchase that naughty French maid's outfit you've been thinking about getting. Yes, buy those towering, pleather heels and perform a strip tease for your man. Yes, buy that new sex toy. Yes, ask him to pretend he's the sexy, young pizza delivery boy.

8. Get Your Rest
Sleep and sex go hand in hand. When you're sleep deprived, you'd rather get some shut-eye than knock boots. Experts recommend you do both. An orgasm will help you get a more restful sleep, which will help you be raring to go later on.

9. Try It Somewhere New
The bedroom's great and all, but the mattress is sagging in that one spot that you always seem to do it. Get out of the bedroom! Do it in your car while it's parked in the garage. Climb on top of the kitchen counter while the kids are asleep. Rent a room in a nearby bed and breakfast for one night. That one session will give you plenty of fantasy material for weeks to come.

10. Potty Mouth
If you're new to dirty talk, it can feel a little awkward, but practice makes perfect. Tell your man how badly you want him. Tell him exactly how you like it and ask him what he wants you to do to him. Tell him when he hits your spot. Directions will always lead to better sex because the both of you will know when something is working and when to change up your techniques. Plus the added, "Oh baby, you're the best I've ever had," isn't bad for the ego either.

Stay in and Play!

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Guilty Pleasures

2010-09-09T11:02:00.007-04:00

Monaco Restaurant and Lounge

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btwn Quentin Rd and Ave P.

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Starting September 24th and Every Friday thereafter

Indulge in guilty pleasures…….

Delicious Thai and European Menu

Sexy Cocktails and Martinis

Go-Go dancers Hookahs Decadent deserts

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2 for 1 drinks 7-9pm

Bottle Specials
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Doors Open at 7pm
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SPICE UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP TONIGHT!!!

2010-06-23T11:23:00.000-04:00

Every relationship needs relief from the same old bedroom routine now and then. Here is a collection of tips to boost the passion points in your romance.

Get Wet and Wild
The bath or shower can be more than just a place to get clean! It can also be a sexy rendezvous to reconnect with your lover. Taking the time to bathe each other and wash one another’s hair can be a sensual delight. Steam up the bathroom with some erotic accessories inviting to both you and your lover. If you have the available counter space or open shelves, place scented candles around the room. Keep aromatic bath oils and waterproof toys close by. Just be sure you have a private place to store your toys if you have children or
expect guests.

One if by Land...
Keep a set of "signal" sheets (or even just a signal pillow) that you or your lover can put on the bed to silently request a romantic tryst. Pick an unusual color, a sexy material like satin or a bold pattern - or a pillow with a sexy come-hither saying on it.

An Appetite for Love
Prepare a dinner that is a prelude to love wearing nothing but an apron and a smile. There are so many foods that have been thought to be aphrodisiacs that you will have no problem planning a menu. Some ideas are oysters, pine nuts, peaches, grapes, walnuts -- even asparagus - or just serve something special to the two of you. More important than the food is that the meal stirs the senses by evoking arousing smells, tastes and textures. Don't forget to play mood music and put candles in every room. You don't even have to make it to the bedroom - why not have a change of sexual venue in the kitchen?

Go Postal!
Buy some pretty or provocative stationery - or use your computer to create an invitation for a romantic date or trip for you and your lover. Include all of the details including the time, date, what to wear and where to meet, but keep the romantic event itself a surprise. Address the envelope to your lover and mail it to him or her. In this era of instant communication with email, text messaging and cell phones, the invitation will be a romantic surprise.

Let's Dance
Remember when a mix tape was sooo romantic? To get you in the mood, make a mix CD of all of your favorite sexy songs or fun songs and have a dance together. Get as wild or as romantic as you wish - your dances can go as far as you like. You can add a bump-and-grind music and do your own strip tease or some salsa and do your own forbidden dance of love.

Reach Out and Touch Someone
Don't forget simple pleasures. Brushing your lover's hair, a light sensual massage or just cuddling can be extremely sensuous. Touching always leads to more touching. Play touching games by seeing how lightly you can run your hands over your lover's body, spell out suggestive words with your finger and see if he or she can guess what you wrote.

Hide and Seek
Take a sexy picture of yourself and hide it with a suggestive note in his or her briefcase, wallet or lunch box. Just make sure not to put it where it may be found by children or coworkers.

Trick or Treat
Costumes are not just for kids at Halloween. There are so many sexy costumes out there for men and women. Try role playing as a pilot and a stewardess - or a teacher and a schoolgirl - or a real estate agent and a prospective home buyer. The possibilities are endless. Fantasy foreplay can lead you to realms of spiciness you never knew existed. Let your imagination run wild.

Romance Zone
Keep your bedroom off limits for everything except sleep and romance. Do not allow it to be a center of the household where you write bills or do work, it should be a haven for you and your lover and a stress-free zone where you enjoy one another and your relationship. Use soft colors and fabrics, fresh cut flowers on your nightstand, mirrors and your favorite art - anything to create an atmosphere of relaxation and sensuality.

ARTEROTICA

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PROMISE

2010-06-03T03:41:00.002-04:00

THE KISS

2010-05-31T22:06:00.000-04:00

It was a soft, wet kiss delicately and deliciously dipped in single malt scotch. Lips soft as silk, slightly ajar. Pressing gently into my own. I felt my entire body awaken from what felt like a forced slumber. In that one gesture, I was all consumed, feeling myself evaporating, vanishing, dispersed into the air into a million pieces that quickly disintegrated into a million mini explosions. Before she could pull away, I felt myself sliding around her oral fixation in a kind of quiet desperation. That one movement completed a solitary gesture that sent my soul into a slow burn causing me to attempt to squeeze away the fiery desire that churned between my thighs.

Let me explain. I have this miserable weakness for kissing. For soft, yielding, feminine lips that taste of slowly aged scotch. An unexpected sensual collision of a warm, moist, sensual mouth, tainted with a strong hint of some Glen signaled the beginning of an end for me. I have no idea why, why I could get off from just a kiss. To me, it was something in the subtlety of a kiss that can be so powerful. But not a fall-in-love kind of powerful. The power was in the lust. It was unembarrassed, unencumbered and unnatural. And I loved it.

Ok. So, one night a bunch of us were out. Drunk as hell. People do all kinds of crazy shit in that condition, especially my friends. Dancing on tables, pulling off pieces of clothing, making out with somebody's else boyfriend/girlfriend, doing lines of coke in the restroom, fighting, you name it. We always knew that something could jump off most evenings at any moment's notice. This particular night had begun a slow, uneventful crawl into the wee hours of morning. I skipped dinner and the Patron (multiple sips not shots) had lulled me into some temporary catatonic state, convincing me that it was okay to just sit there in the midst of this New York City party weekend in this fabulous bar, on a banquette seat, eyes closed, loud music shaking the walls and pretty people all around me. I don't know, call it boredom, indifference, fatigue? Anyway, as I'm sitting there, my consciousness slipping further and further away from me, that's when those lips, tasty, hungry but hesitant, assaulted my own. All at once I became even more inebriated from the kiss and its potency; daring myself to open my eyes because I knew it could have been just about anybody taking this very private and personal moment with me. But then I believed it couldn't be just anybody because it didn't feel like just anybody. Before I could open my eyes, her unmistakable scent hit me like a mist.

Almost, as if in slow motion, she pulled away from me, her own eyes still closed. These sensual, unsure, but hungry lips belonged to my 'straight' girlfriend Lauren. While Lauren is straight, she certainly isn't narrow in her thinking. Friends for over five years, she was always supportive of my 'alternative' lifestyle. She wasn't the type that reinforced her heterosexuality, although she was confidently straight. She also didn't feel the need to commiserate by declaring some hidden bi or queer desire, like confessing to same sex kisses at thirteen or clumsy fingering during a sweet 16 slumber party.

Lauren watched me for my reaction before attempting an escape. But I grabbed her by her wrist, pulling her back down next to me.

"Lauren, you just kissed me," I whispered. As she sat there, she decided to wrap her arm around me, taunting in a low-cut shimmery thing masquerading as a dress draping off her body. One of her erect nipples poked me in the arm sharply and menacing. And her eyes, dark mysterious pools to nowhere, were feathered with fake eyelashes making her look just too devilishly vulnerable for my taste.

"So the fuck what." She answered, in that soft but, raspy, voice of hers, made more sexy by the coarseness of her cursing. "Don't act like you've never been kissed by a girl before. "Please." She slurred it, poising herself to go in for another one of her oral masterpieces.

"I'm not a friggin test drive, Lauren. Keep your lips, all of them, to yourself." I unwrapped her arm from around my shoulder, angling myself so that no parts of her body was anywhere near me. In the meantime, I was telling my libido to shut the fuck up.

"Ah, can I see that again? This would be a genius opening on my Facebook page tomorrow morning." Jeff had been standing there, our resident metrosexual rocking Prada from shirt to shoe. The kicker was that he was apparently into really, very rough sex - Jeff favoring being on the receiving end. He didn't think any of us knew about it. Standing before us, Jeff was laughing to himself, steadying his iphone at Lauren and me for our unsolicited close-up.

"Is your sex life so boring that you must reduce yourself to fratboy social networking postings? Jeff, like, aren’t you over 30?" Lauren quizzed him and the thought did cross my mind - had Lauren ever shared one of those kissing moments with Jeff? Then again, did it matter?

"And?" Jeff might have been swimming around in his 10th beer, but his shooting hand was steady.

"Fuck out of here." I spat, snatching the piece of technological propaganda out of his hand, taking a photo of Jeff looking shocked that I had turned the tables on him before handing him back his phone.

"You both suck." He sulked sweetly.

"You wish. That's your problem." Lauren laughed not moving an inch away from me.

"Nope. With your help, I decided that you both are officially UN-sexy. I'll leave you to your pseudo Sapphic sorcery." He replied, leaving Lauren and me to finish what she started.

"So, Meta. Finally, are you going to let me come home with you tonight?"

"*Finally*? What part of this series have I missed? Like, you've never asked me before. What are you talking about?"

"You're toying with me, Meta. Stop being coy, come on."

"Lauren. You gotta be tripping."

"I'm not. But I wish I was."

"No. You are. You're attractive. In fact, you're very beautiful. And because of that I'm gonna let you in on a little secret about me. This might be a shock, but, there is hardly anything predatory about my sexuality. While your kiss was off the charts, baby, it was phenomenal, actually. But, I have no intention on clit fucking you into oblivion, Lauren. While it might be fun for a hot minute, I know this. But, it would basically symbolize the end of our once very platonic friendship as we know it. And that would be such an atrocious transgression, that I can't have not one sexy, straight friend without fucking her."

The pout was coming. I knew it. For as long as I've known Lauren, never had it been applied to me. The feeling was new and unnerving. Those perfect lips, pursed outward, taunting me, daring me. I stopped looking at her.

"Well, if you have to put it like that, Meta, then never mind. I'm not dyking out. This has nothing to do with tiny little boxes - whose straight, whose gay. I was just digging you for that one hot moment. Not like two chicks, but two people, attracted to each other. I thought we could have fun with it. Thank you for stealing the moment and being so friggin' political. I'm officially sobered."

All I could do was laugh. If I let myself go with her - I knew I would regret it for one reason or another. Orientation, gender, anyway you bend didn't make a hell of a difference because, undeniably, Lauren was trouble. And I knew that kiss was only the beginning.

The History of the Vibe

2010-05-31T14:37:00.000-04:00

In the 19^th century, female sexual arousal was misdiagnosed as an illness called Hysteria. The condition was thought to be a disorder of the womb and had a range of symptoms including anxiety, rapid heart rate, sleeplessness, sexual fantasies, pelvic heaviness, vaginal lubrication, ticklishness and sometimes impulse purchasing. Fortunately, this chronic and recurring ailment could be temporarily relieved by the medical administration of vaginal massage to induce “hysterical paroxysm” (aka orgasm).

The use of vaginal massage as a therapy for hysterical patients dates back to Hippocrates (ca 460BC-ca 370BC). It was the adaption by the medical profession in the late 1800’s that populated the treatment and changed the lives of women forever.

While physician-assisted “medicinal massage” made going to the doctor a popular and frequent event, it led to pained, sore fingers and wrists for doctors. So when a British doctor named Joseph Mortimer Granville patented the first electromechanical version of the vibrator in 1883, it was welcomed with open arms- and legs!

It wasn’t long before portable versions of vibrators were being sold as a sort of “cure all” for female health problems. Mail-order, including the Sears Roebuck catalog enabled women to buy vibrating massagers without any fear of being considered socially deviant. In fact, respectable magazines like Needlecraft and Women’s Home Companion cleverly advertised massagers as mechanism to improve health, wellbeing and circulation. It was the fine print, however, that had women flocking in droves to buy this novel home appliance with catch phrases like “all the pleasure of youth…will throb within you” and “Aids that every woman appreciates”.

When “massagers” started showing up in ‘30’s stag films though, it became increasingly difficult to pass them off as innocent health aids. Unable to continue the social masquerade of innocent pleasure object, the vibrator came very close to disappearing from the consumer market entirely.

It wasn’t until 1952, when the American Medical Association declared that hysteria was not an ailment, that the vibrator, now freed from the medical connection gradually started to re-emerge in the marketplace as an actual sex toy.

While the revolutionary social changes that took place during the ‘60’s kept the vibrator far from extinction they were still deemed immoral and bought predominantly as daring gifts for wives and lovers.

Manufactured by an almost exclusively male led industry for the next 20 years, vibrators tended to be, well… a man’s idea of what a woman wanted for a sex toy.

Despite the fact that most vibrators available were gigantic throbbing flesh-pink phalluses, when the Internet offered women the opportunity to browse and to buy sex toys anonymously, the market literally exploded. And since the’90’s, with greater forums for discussion, wider social acceptance and even cultural references in hit TV shows like Sex and the City, the shift in product mix and consumers have been contributing factors in launching the vibe into a new era.

While the history of the vibrator may be short, its story is certainly colorful. I think it’s safe to say that vibes are here to stay. No longer trying to imitate every man’s fantasy penis, manufacturers now offer a plethora of vibes to choose from. The mix includes everything you can imagine; ranging from its origins with the Hitachi Magic Wand right through to unrecognizable vibrating art objects. And while vibes still carry a little baggage it’s good to keep a little social taboo-ness attached – it’s what makes them so much fun.

“Amsterdam Windows” In Your Own House!

2010-05-26T10:07:00.000-04:00

Ever heard of the phrase ‘Amsterdam windows’? Well, this term actually refers to the red light district in Amsterdam, an area in the main city of Holland where prostitution is legal. In the red light district, women in this profession stand in front of window displays to entice male passersby to select them and come in for pleasure.

The shower sex game Amsterdam windows comes from this and for you to play the game, you seriously need some glass shower stalls!

Amsterdam Windows 101

This sex game is great for your relationship and has different elements in it. There’s the play on voyeurism (on your part), on self-pleasuring (on both your parts) and on role-playing (on her part) so let’s get started!

For this sex game, you can opt to engage in foreplay or not. Opting for foreplay means you can easily be on your way to playing the sex game but opting for the latter has some fun too. How? If you don’t engage in foreplay, then it’s up to your partner to bring you to a level of arousal without touching you!

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Now for the mechanics of this sex game…

With the bathroom dimly set, your partner should stand behind the shower stall and turn on the shower. She should have a sexy, white t-shirt on so you can clearly see how her nipples get turned on by the blast of water running down her body.

As for you, you’re sitting on a chair on the OTHER side of the glass shower stall. Hello voyeurism!

Your partner should now put on all her charms and get you as turned on as much as possible. She can continue on to have her t-shirt on or she can proceed to take an achingly slow shower, making sure you can see all those suds slide down her body and how she touches herself all over. This part brings out the role-playing in her. She can pretend to be in an adult movie shower scene!

To increase the heat factor, she can then move on to more daring moves such as pushing her body against the glass for your torment or… start self-pleasuring yourself. At this stage, you may also want to do the same thing. Note that on this move, you are both fulfilling a sex fantasy that thousands of couples dream up everyday… the fantasy of watching your lover play with him/herself!

How the sex game Amsterdam Windows ends is totally up to you. Here are some scenarios:
- You guys can stop as you both reach your climaxes apart. (Each behind his end of the shower stall glass, sexy!)
- You can join each other under the shower and proceed to making love. (A personal favorite of mine!)
- Or you guys can switch roles! This time, it’s YOUR turn to try and bring her to slow and sexy torment.

Note that through the duration of this sex game, there must be NO communication between the two of you whatsoever. Act like strangers, with the one sitting down getting turned on simply by what the other chooses to do from his/her end of the ‘window’.

As if this sex game is not steamy enough, there are other things you can add to modify the sex game to your further liking.

- Make the objective of the game the shortest time a partner can make the one sitting down reach a climax.

- Add music to the equation. You can pre-mix music that alternates between soft and sexy and rough and hard. With this element, the one behind the glass should coordinate his/her sexy movements to the music.

- Add video to the equation. If you guys know of a really hot shower scene in a movie, get a clip of it and play it. In this scenario the objective is to make the one behind the glass ‘act out’ the scene completely.

Be your own adult movie stars. Discuss if you want to videotape the whole sex game for your viewing pleasure later.

The sex game Amsterdam windows has a lot going for it. It brings in many sex fantasy elements that you guys can finally engage in without necessarily being too shy or coy about it. By simply adding the element of the steamy, glass shower stalls, it’s amazing how couples can be so ‘free’ and finally make their fantasies come to life.
Enjoy!

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Relax. Get A Sex Toy.

2010-05-16T18:29:00.000-04:00

Sex toys, when used alone, can also be great stress relievers. Sex, after all, is tantamount to
massaging the body‘s erogenous zones. This can lead to arousal and orgasmic spasms, which further relaxes the body. One can also liken the sexual act to a release.
Physical tension is lifted; while the mind, in its orgasmic state, is also temporarily relieved of worries and the like. Hence, the stress relief component of sex and masturbation cannot be downplayed. In actuality, it is one of the main reasons both men and women indulge in masturbation and sex.
Sex toys enable the everyday man or woman to seek out sexual pleasure and its physiological benefits without needing partners. Sometimes, partners can complicate things. The emotional and intellectual come into play, which is typically ok.
But what if all you want is great sex? When it comes to sex toys, it is straight down to business – you know what you came for and you‘re going to get it.
An extra plus that comes with this is the increased likelihood of having sex with your partner because of your relaxed and stress-free status. Worries and tension often distract us from sensual pleasure, thus making it difficult for us to get aroused and reach orgasm. If you are in a relaxed state, you become more open to this.

Know Yourself. Know Your Partner.
One of the major benefits of sex toys is that they are ways to get to know yourself and your own sexuality better. Using sex toys also allows you to increase your awareness of your partner‘s sexuality as well.
Sexual exploration has always led to finding better ways to please ourselves and others. Sex toys are tools for sexual exploration.
Gone are the days when women feel less empowered in bed and in achieving their own orgasms. They too are responsible for reaching climax. Ditto with males who have taken their sexualities for granted, doing the same old thing with themselves and with their partners, day in and day out.
With sex toys, you can learn more about yourself and your partner. In doing so, you can ideally please yourself and your partner better.
On your own, you can explore the different sexual parts of your body. You can experiment on how to stimulate these parts, in terms of the variations in speed and the intensity of each touch.

This is especially important in women because arousal and orgasm take several stages. A woman would normally have to learn to get to each of these stages, building up her arousal to get to her climax.
Many women find difficulty in this aspect of their sexuality. For a lot of women, getting to the orgasmic state needs time and practice. Sex toys can be great tools for this. With sex toys, women can take control of the experience.
They can linger where they want to linger, get rough when they want to, and go slow when they want to. In time, they will know what sexual rhythms their body follows – and can eventually teach their partners how to please them better.
For a man, the common goal is to learn to sustain arousal throughout the sex act until the orgasm of his partner. He can do this by practicing his arousal and orgasm stages. This way, he can learn orgasm control. With orgasm control, climax and ejaculation are held back to give way to the pleasure of his partner. This can potentially increase the intensity of orgasms in men, as well as their partners.
With sex toys, a man can practice his sexual stages and his reaction to these stages. He then learns what ―sets him off‖ to throes of orgasmic passion and what can help tame this response, in order to go with the rhythm and timing of his partner.
Now, sex toys can also be used by both partners at the same time. In a way, this cuts through the processes of knowing each other‘s sexuality. In going solo with sex toys, one can learn about himself or herself and then relay this information to the partner. Ideally, with simultaneous sex toy play, the partner should know more about how to please his or her lover right away.
Be aware, though: when sex toys are used by both partners at the same time, it may just be fireworks! There is nothing more intimate than a loving couple who is comfortable and trusting of each other, enough to want to delve in soul-baring sexual acts. This is never really easy, no matter how open you claim to be. It requires a lot of trust, but is deeply rewarding.
In a way, sex toys become additional sex organs between couples. Sex does not merely involve the mouth, skin, and the sex organs. It now has an often vibrating sidekick, which is sure to enhance each partner‘s sexual pleasure.

Sex Toys = Better Sex
In all, sex toys can benefit any couple‘s sexual relationship. They share something intimate and fun, and learn a little more about how to please each other. Further, you do not even have to be in a romantic relationship to get improved sex through sex toys. Sex toys help you explore yourself and understand your sexuality better. By the time you enter a relationship, you will know how to guide your partner in pleasing you better.

2010-05-15T21:51:00.002-04:00

After Sex Tips

2010-05-15T21:49:00.000-04:00

It was a GREAT round of lovemaking! You probably want to doze off now but what if she doesn’t? I won’t delve into the details of WHY men seem to shut down after sex while women seem to want to do the opposite. Men and women are just different. Period. However, when it comes to afterglow there can be a sort of middle ground where everybody’s happy.

FIVE Things to Do After Sex
Go ahead and cuddle! Guys, most women don’t want to start and have a whole conversation running after sex. We got tired too. However, simply turning away from us and sleeping translates to many negative things in our mind such as “hmmm, feels like I just got used for sex”. You can easily prevent this by simply hugging your woman after lovemaking. Just put one leg over her legs and one arm over her and snuggle up close. That’s it!

Side note: A couple I used to counsel had this issue where he always got out of bed and didn’t return after a few minutes. Well guess what, it turned out he was soooo warm after making love that he was sweating buckets and didn’t want to gross out his partner in bed. Moral lesson: if you need to step out of bed after sex for whatever reason simply communicate this with your partner!
Make the heat burn a little longer. Most men think that the type of conversation women want after sex is all about “relationships”. Not true at all. Women simply want to connect further after an orgasm and really the topic of what’s being talked about is not extremely important.
As such – and to motivate you to talk after sex – why not steer the conversation into something you want to talk about. Sex positions, perhaps?
For instance, when you embrace her, whisper if she thinks she would like to try something new next time. You’re talking about something YOU like and the fact that you’re talking is what SHE likes.
If you’re more an ‘action speaks louder than words’ type of guy then don’t speak and just physically communicate with her by, say, drawing lazy circles around her breast or gently kissing her neck, or simply holding hands.
Well, if you must shower… some men (and women too!) feel the need to shower after making love. This is definitely the case if you just had morning sex and need to dash off somewhere. Sometimes though, people want to take a shower because they got all hot and sweaty! This time, instead of taking a quick shower alone, pull your partner with you! It’s great bonding time and who knows what all that touching, soaping, and rubbing can lead to next?

Drink up! All that lovemaking has probably made you both thirsty. Well, go ahead and quench the thirst with some COLD water. After taking a sip, be sure to lean down and put one of her nipples in your mouth! It’s sexy, good for laugh and makes her feel you’re still yearning for her.
Another good idea is to grab a glass of wine too and share it. You can then cuddle up in bed till you both doze off.

Play some ‘sleep’ music. This is a tip from one of my friends who are a couple. They do both tend to be worn out and sleepy after making love. Taking a shower doesn’t fit, turning on the TV is a no-no, and neither wanted to talk about anything! The solution they found was this, they would turn on some really soothing ‘sleep music’. It relaxes them both as they snuggle up a bit after sex. And then they slowly draw away from each other (too warm to stay close!) and drift blissfully to sleep. Try it!

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G-Spot Positions! Three Sex Positions to Hit the G Spot During Sex!

2010-05-11T10:42:00.000-04:00

I read the other day that the majority of American’s regularly have sex in just a few positions. Well, if that’s true, it’s time to shake things up! This article is on g spot positions. These are our favorite ways of hitting the g-spot during sex.
If you like boring, normal sex, that lasts just 5-10 minutes, don’t read this page. If you’re feeling more adventurous, and are ready to blow your mind then please, proceed!

So, the first step in hitting your g spot during sex is to know where it is! For the purposes of this article, we’re going to assume you know what the g spot is, how to regularly find it, and how your partner likes it stimulated.
Now that that’s all taken care of-let’s focus on g spot positions. The first step is to recognize that the g spot, or g spot area, is small and not always in the same place. So, throughout your sex you’ll both need to be communicating. What works, what feels good, what doesn’t, a little to the right, a little to the left, etc.
In the beginning, as you explore different g spot positions, it’s likely best if you agree not to have orgasms. We’ve found this makes it easy to have a sense of exploration and play.
And, without further delay, here are our three favorite g spot positions. Enjoy!
Ride ‘Em Cowboy (Woman on Top)
I have to say there’s something so sexy about a woman being on top, in charge of finding what feels the best. Really, this position is ideal because it allows the woman to control the depth, intensity, and speed. It gives you the ability to play, and explore, and notice how much more pleasure comes from subtle differences.
As you are on top, experiment with what feel’s best to you. Move, shift, tell your partner what feel’s good, rock back and forth, take it deep, keep it shallow, etc. This will likely work best if you are already aroused and hot. (This is true with all these g spot positions)
Now, as the guy in this position, you’re not just laying back passively (thought that is fine to do-just not now!). What will help your partner most is if you tilt your pelvis as much as possible. The more you can do this, the better.
You’ll also get a great workout! : )
Unfortunately, if you are anything like me, you’ll get super tired super quick. In the beginning we used to use alot of pillows to try to angle my hips. Lately, we’ve really been enjoying something called the wedge, its a liberator shape. This small shape puts your pelvis in the perfect tilted position without you having to do any work.
I know it sounds crazy, but the small, subtle positioning this enables, makes all the difference. If you want to find out more about liberator shapes, their website is www.liberatorshapes.com.
Doggy Style (Crouching, Man Coming from Behind)
This is one of our favorite g spot positions. Not only do you have great g-spot access, but there’s just something so primal and sexy about *&#*! from behind.
Now, guys, in this position you can take it easy and let her do all the work. In this case, ladies, use your thighs to press back and find the depth, thrust style, and position that works best for you.
However, guys, if you want to be more active, you can easily adapt this position. Push your woman down, and lay more on top of her (still coming in from behind)
Now, for the best g spot stimulation, position your legs outside of hers and put more of your weight forward, so you are riding her from up higher.
This puts your penis on more of a downward angle, and helps you hit her g-spot more directly. You can also experiment with having her legs more open, or more closed to see what feels best.
We’ve also been using the liberator shape – the wedge – in this position too. We found if we put that underneath my girlfriend, it gives her hips a particular tilt that totally amp things up.
Your Highness (Man Kneeling or Standing, Woman’s Legs on His Shoulders)
We love this sex position. With many g spot positions you can’t look each other in the eyes. With this one, we recommend it. Also, when you want to hit the g spot, having your legs high and wide is the secret ingredient. Sometimes putting your feet on your partner’s shoulders can be the most comfortable (it’s also just super sexy!)
Now, you can do this position in lots of ways. You can do it off your sofa, a chair, or your coffee table (we won’t tell!). Or, you can modify it to work off your bed by kneeling vs standing. The only real key to this position is that your partner is angled upward, with her legs spread wide or on your shoulders. You can achieve this combination in lots of different ways (be creative!)
Well, these are our three favorite g spot positions, and I hope you try them out and enjoy!

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